We’re all familiar with this particular scenario (or one like it):
You’re at the grocery store picking up some fresh produce for your homemade marinara sauce (because we all make our own pasta sauce) when you look up and dent-free tomatoes are no longer able to maintain your focus.
Trapped in your scope is an absolutely stunning woman (or for you ladies, handsome man). For no reason what-so-ever your breath has been stolen. You coyly approach the person and pretend you didn’t see them there and “accidentally” run into their shopping cart.
Conversation begins as you apologize for being so clumsy and continue your banter based on items I noticed in her/his cart.
Both of you have quirky, yet non-threatening, friends that approach and aids in the now flirtatious endeavors.
You exchange numbers, go on a your first date, fall in love, get married, and now have an interesting story to tell your children.
Well…that’s at least how it works out according to 1 out of 20 movies released by Hollywood; more if you count Direct-to-Video titles.
It doesn’t necessarily happen that way in real life; or at least in my life. I’ve never been one to “force” conversation with someone I see while out running errands. I typically need to have a reason to approach someone and begin a conversation (a legitimate one).
So, this my question to you:
How do you strike up conversation with someone you otherwise technically have no existing reason to talk to?
I’ve often heard of people meeting at various stores, coffee shops, gyms, etc., and somehow by the end of, what could have been no more than, a 5 minute conversation phone numbers are exchanged.
I am not the idea of finding something common to talk about to get the ball rolling. Some examples being:
-Comment on the book they are reading
-Ask them for advice on a workout/fitness program
-Comment on a particular item they seem to be thinking about buying
A lot of times it comes to paying attention to the details around you (and them).
But take all of that out of the equation and consider this:
What if the only factor that has you interested is based purely on a physical attraction level, and perhaps limited exposure to their personality (over hearing a conversation or extremely limited interaction)?
Say, you find the barista at your local coffee shop cute and want to ask for their number. You have only the that limited interaction to work with. Aside from trying to establish yourself as a regular over time, what “tactics” would you use?
Wow, I really hope this all made sense. If it doesn’t, feel free to kick me.