My boyfriend is a neat freak. We’re going to move in soon and he is MUCH cleaner than I am. I can see it causing friction. There may be a pile of clothes on the floor, clean unfolded laundry on the bed, and a sinkful of dishes that I’ve left there for half a week. He, by contrast, is a two showers a day/laundry 2-3 times a week guy.
Anyhow, thinking about this, I brought it up to him and he 1) said it would probably be a problem. 2) He would be fine with general rules rather than assigning chores. However, when I said he would have to compromise and relax a little on cleanliness too, he balked. He said, “Well, I can just start on things and you come help me,” which seems fine but sometimes I’m tired and I don’t *want* to. He doesn’t seem that concerned about it how it’ll work but I don’t want to be policed all the time.
I do like a clean house, but coming from a messy family I’ve never really gotten in the habit of picking up as a go, so I feel it’s something I’m learning and he shouldn’t have such high expectations.
So here’s my question: What move-in problems did you have? And how did you handle them? Am I being unreasonable with my thoughts?