“I don’t like the way he touches me”

I have had many problems with my boyfriend but we always work it out. Or at least I thought we did. We had a big fight recently and he confessed a lot of feelings he had kept bottled up for a long time and the thing that bothered me the most was the way he talked about a problem we had with consent.

I told him I didn’t like being touched many times and almost every time he tried I would move his hand away and/or tell him no or to stop. He has stopped since we had a very serious conversation about how violated it made me feel when he ignored me and kept insisting and guilt tripping and pressuring me to do things I didn’t want to. He ended up crying and apologizing over and over and said he didn’t realize what he was doing and he stopped doing things I didn’t want. But when we were fighting he brought it up and said “oh yeah like when you apparently felt like I ‘assaulted’ you or something” and asked how I can touch him and then “act like” I don’t want him to touch me. We’ve had a lot of misunderstandings because of the way he sometimes words things incorrectly but I really don’t know how to go about this.

“My bosses sister touches me inappropriately”

I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it. I don’t know how to get out of this situation? I’m writing this post because basically I’m lost. I don’t know what to do?

I invited my boss’s sister to join my all female group with a specific focus. My boss is always complaining that her sister is socially awkward, and lost in life, so I decided to invite her to join my group. I have worked there for the past two years but my boss doesn’t like me. She seems very uninterested and unimpressed with me. I should also admit I’m scared of her. She basically ignores me in the office and our offices face each other.

Twice a week, after work, I facilitate this all female group with a specific focus. My boss’s sister started coming to the group two months ago. She is a 53 years old, short like 5ft 2, skinny, masculine, freckled face, creepy green eyes, thin lips, red haired woman . I am a 39 year old 5ft10, heterosexual, curvy hourglass shaped, attractive brunette. Continue reading