“Can I forgive him, or should I leave?”

I’ve been with my boyfriend 15 months, living together for 6. I’m 27.

Up until a week ago, my life revolved around this man. I never believed in soulmates or anything, but he was my best friend. He made me feel like it could be true. I trusted him with my life.

About a week ago, I was talking to a friend about a girl my boyfriend used to live with. My boyfriend had told me this girl was obsessed with him, that she had kissed him on the cheek once, but that was it. Nothing else had ever happened.

I had a niggling feeling, and I remember asking him a few times about this girl. Each time he got cross and told me I had to trust him.

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“After the break, would an apology gift be appropriate?”

My boyfriend and I are currently on a break because I lied about my past. I felt so guilty and wrong that I eventually told him the truth after I built up the courage to do so. I knew that telling him would hurt his feelings, so I kept putting it off, until I felt I couldn’t keep it to myself any more.

He, quite rightly, feels hurt and doesn’t know if he can trust me, as he has been entirely honest with me about his past — a very difficult thing to do.

However, I believe that as our relationship was so strong before, we are still the same people, and the lie could eventually be forgiven, as it was said out of insecurity and fear, with no intention of causing harm.

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“Lied early on in the relationship, now he can’t trust me, advice needed”

I’m 18, female, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now.

At the start of our relationship I lied about being with other people, exaggerating my sexual past, so I wouldn’t seem like such an inexperienced girl. I didn’t think much of it at the time, it was very early on.

However, he has been completely honest about his sexual past and I have betrayed his trust by lying about mine. I love him so much that I didn’t want to lose him, the more time that passed, the worse it got, eventually I had to come out with the truth, that he was the only man I’d ever properly been with.

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What a Fool

I was with this man for four years. From day one he lied, hid things from me, let other people run me down. His son is 21, he lied on me, went and got his mom, she attacked me, had to take her to court. My boyfriend would not go to court with me. Said his back was hurting. His mother told him I was trying to keep his son away from him. I was in the house and heard the conversation. My boyfriends dad is the only one that did not take up for his grandson. He knew he would lie. The only thing my boyfriend did was tell his son that he was wrong for what he did. I helped his son get a car. I helped my boyfriend get out of his mom’s house, move back into his trailer, helped get the lights on, a new hot water heater, new floors, heat and air. New ceiling in living room and kitchen. Helped him get two cars, clothes and bought stuff for the house. Got two lawyers to try and help him get his license back. Bought him a phone and put it on my plan. His sister has this girl she hangs around. She is a loud mouth and loves to drink. She likes to get all over men to. My son is handicapped, she tried him, when he resisted her, she threatened to cut him. I told my boyfriend about it, he would not believe it. Then she came to his house one night, I was there, I was looking right at her, she grabs my boyfriends head and buries it in her chest. I got him outside confronted him. Then when she gets ready to leave he seeks up to her and hugs her, he thought I was in the bathroom. I jumped on him. I thought she was gone she comes back another time and gets started with me, he does nothing. Then this Saturday she comes, she was running her mouth and I walk in. I confront him, he tells me to wash and go to bed. The last straw was Tuesday when I found he had been calling others, but told me he could not use his phone only on break and lunch time. I told him las night I was through, and I was cutting the phone off. He said he has done nothing wrong. He also owes me a lot of money. I told him the only time I will see him is when he has my money. I feel like a fool. I never want to try again.