“Lied early on in the relationship, now he can’t trust me, advice needed”

I’m 18, female, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now.

At the start of our relationship I lied about being with other people, exaggerating my sexual past, so I wouldn’t seem like such an inexperienced girl. I didn’t think much of it at the time, it was very early on.

However, he has been completely honest about his sexual past and I have betrayed his trust by lying about mine. I love him so much that I didn’t want to lose him, the more time that passed, the worse it got, eventually I had to come out with the truth, that he was the only man I’d ever properly been with.

Understandably he was very hurt and felt like he couldn’t trust me anymore, I completely understand how he feels and I honestly feel like such a disgusting person for doing this.

I love him so much, I really want to regain his trust, show him how much he means to me and how willing I am to never lie to him again and earn his trust.

We have decided to go on a break for 2 weeks until I get back from university, then decide whether or not we are going to continue our relationship.

I would really welcome any advice on how to show him that he can trust me again and rebuild our relationship, thank you.

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2 thoughts on ““Lied early on in the relationship, now he can’t trust me, advice needed”

  1. JustMe89 says:

    Have you tried being completely honest with him about the reason you lied to him, he may be feeling a little betrayed because he revealed more about his sexual past that he would have done if he realised that you were less ‘experienced’ than he thought you were. You just need to tell him the reason you lied is because you wanted to appear more confident but truthfully his the only man who you have truly loved and trusted enough to commit to fully sexually and emotionally, just remind him how much you love him. I think the best way to regain someone’s trust is to just be completely honest a about your feelings and what he means to you 🙂 hope that helps and good luck

    • Anonymous Blurb Author says:

      Sorry I didn’t mean to click disagree, meant to click agree Yes I’ve explained why I did it, I think he just needs time to think everything through, thank you for your advice, it’s really appreciated.

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