“I’m dating two guys at once”

So, I’ve been dating two guys at the same time. I’m not in a relationship with either one, but I’ve been dating both of them. We are all in the same friend group, and have a ski trip coming up next month. Both guys are going. Airline tickets are bought and house rental paid.

Well I feel like I need to make a choice eventually, but I don’t know if I should wait until after our trip or what?

Please give advice regarding timing of the trip.

“I’m stuck between two guys”

I am stuck between two people, one who I know a bit about, he’s a few years older than me but he is very sweet and has an amazing personality.

The other guy is someone who I’ve been friends with for several months and we are close as ever. He is sweet and I know he’d treat me right (he’s seen how I’ve been treated in the past) but I’m nervous I’ll ruin my friendship with him. Both like me except my friend told the first guy I like him. And the second guy knows I used to like him. I’m not sure what to do because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I’m scared someone will get hurt. Help!

“Do I confront him and risk losing him?”

I met this guy on a dating app (we’re both guys) and at first I thought we were just in it for the sex, but then he started getting sweet on me: hanging out for more than sex, cooking me meals, Netflix and chill, spending every day after classes (we’re both in university) together. We basically became a couple in all but name.

We had a row and he made it clear that he doesn’t like me ‘that way’, but we still continue as if nothing changed. We also made it clear that we were just friends, despite everything we did together, and so we began seeing other guys on the side. However, this has led to both of us fighting even more.

He’s said over and over that he likes me as a friend, and he’s limited our sexual contact which I’ve respected, but we are still very intimate physically and spend every night together (just no sex). We practically live together. One night, I came home, not completely sober, and he kissed me, despite having banned it previously.

I get the sense that perhaps he isn’t ready to face his feelings for me, but I feel that if I confront him about this I might lose him. What should I do?

“Grad school is stressing me out and I’m lonely”

Grad school has taken such a toll on me. I am earning a doctorate. I just moved back in with my parents so I can finish writing so I can get my degree ahead of schedule. I ended a relationship of four years in my first year of phd, and ever since I’ve been keeping a loop of guys to release some tension.

But now… I’ve never been more lonely. I moved out of the big city into a small town so I don’t have to stay in this program for the 6 yrs allotted (currently in my fourth). My day consists of waking up, French Lessons, working on my doc until 6, working out, dinner with the parents, sleep. I love this routine and I can see my progress, but I am so alone! I rationalised doing this for 6 months so I can pump out this baby and start my next step, but longing for human connection (beyond my wonderful parents) is making me unbelievably sad!

I can’t take on a relationship right now, and I left my hook-up loop players back in the big city. Any suggestions on how to alleviate some of this loneliness without jeopardising my routine?


Pre-doc saddy

“I can’t stop thinking and talking about him”

I really, really like this guy, who also happens to be a good friend. I’ve known him for almost two years and felt nothing romantically towards him at first, but after getting to know him, I realized I like him more than a friend.

He often gives mixed signals, we’ve matched on Tinder about a dozen times now, but we don’t mention it, and I know he’s matched with some of his other friends. He’ll message me almost everyday, about little things like his cat or asking for help with college work, or gossip, or something bad that happened to him. He will also try drag out the conversation as much as possible. Continue reading

“I’m sick of being the ugly friend”

So I’m in a bit of a situation, which is obviously why I’m here, and I don’t really don’t know if this is the right place to put it, but it’s worth a shot right? Pretty much, I’m sick of being the ugly friend, the one that’s constantly left behind or the second option. This has been at least the third time where I’ve liked a guy, and I’m pretty sure he’s almost liked me back, and then I introduce them to my best girl friend, and suddenly they completely forget about me and move straight on to her.

They use me as a connection to try and get with her, and because of the person I am, I feel obliged to help them, but I want them to like me, if that makes any sense. And I’d rather not bring it up with her, because it’s not her fault that she’s absolutely stunning and amazing in every single way, but it’s really getting to me. I just want someone to choose me, you know?
Anyway, thanks.