“My boyfriend bought gifts for an ex”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, live together, shared bank account etc. We are behind financially so I knew not to expect Christmas gifts. My birthday was also a couple of weeks ago and he asked me to return one of my gifts since we needed the money and we would repurchase it later. I returned it.

I found out today that he sent a gift card for $50 to some girl that he went out with briefly that dumped him. He says I have no reason to be upset and am over reacting, and that he was able to have money to do this, and couldn’t get me something for Christmas because I’ve gotten gifts from him for 4 years. I know in my heart I’m right, but wanted another opinion.

“After the break, would an apology gift be appropriate?”

My boyfriend and I are currently on a break because I lied about my past. I felt so guilty and wrong that I eventually told him the truth after I built up the courage to do so. I knew that telling him would hurt his feelings, so I kept putting it off, until I felt I couldn’t keep it to myself any more.

He, quite rightly, feels hurt and doesn’t know if he can trust me, as he has been entirely honest with me about his past — a very difficult thing to do.

However, I believe that as our relationship was so strong before, we are still the same people, and the lie could eventually be forgiven, as it was said out of insecurity and fear, with no intention of causing harm.

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