Tag: dating

“Is he keeping another dating option open?”

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They’ve been dating for two months, and she’s suspicious of his female best friend. Given their stories below, what do you think?

Nick says:

Sarah and I have been in a relationship for about 2 months. Going into the relationship, I told her that my best friend in the world is another woman. This other woman and I are closer than brother and sister. My girlfriend thinks that it is rude and disrespectful of me to be so intimate with another woman, but I think that she only thinks that because she is afraid that I’m not loyal to her, which I find insulting.

Sarah says:

Nick and I have been dating for the last 2 months. I love him dearly, but I get the feeling that his friend loves him as much as I do. I fear that she will try to seduce Nick and take him away from me. Nick disagrees, but I’ve seen the way she looks at him, and I’m not too happy about how Nick looks back. I think that if a man is truly loyal, he only needs one woman in his life. I’m not anywhere near as close to any men as I am with Nick, but he is worryingly close to this woman. Am I at fault for asking him not to keep another dating option open?

“I’m sleeping with my co-worker”

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I’ve been dating a guy from work for the last 3 months. We’ve worked together for a year, but things finally started recently. We go out when our busy schedules permit it, and we always have a good time. We started sleeping together. He compliments me, pleases me sexually (takes his time on me in the bedroom), and motivates me in so many other areas of life. He’s supportive and gives great advice.

Our communication has waned in the last few weeks but we still see each other and are intimate. We have only had sex about 5 or 6 times. I’m a very passive person, but I want to make sure our situation is not based on the physical. How can I approach the situation? Any tips on how to have this conversation? I do want to pursue a relationship with him but I want to protect myself from getting hurt.

“I love her more than her boyfriend ever could”

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I fell in love with this girl last year and it took 7 months of being in the friend zone for her to say she loved me back. She asked me to wait for her, so of course I said yes, but during the time I was waiting for her I had a lot of personal issues going on.

It caused a few mental issues so she stopped speaking to me, then got with someone else. She’s recently got back in touch with me and told me she regrets her decision and has made it clear she’s not happy, but she won’t leave her bf and no matter how much I try, she won’t see that I love her and would do more for her than her current bf ever would.

It kills me but the thought of losing her again hurts even more and I don’t know what to do…..
Someone please help?! She’s all I’ve thought about since January 2016 and I’ve been holding this in since she got with her bf in August 2016.

“I want to date my best friend’s ex”

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My best friend and his girlfriend broke up. His girlfriend went on a mentally unstable bender. I comforted her and kept her safe all day. Thought she was suicidal and had to call an ambulance at one point (misunderstanding, she wasn’t suicidal). So happy she was alive. She said she shouldn’t be alone, came up to mine. We slept together. She stayed the following day and night.

We hung out since. The friend knows everything. She now said she can’t see me because she needs to get her head straight. Run into her and she looks right through me. I am very much in love with her. I know there was something special between us when we were together. I’m thinking of going for one last hurrah and asking her. If she says no I might move away. If she says yes I would happily give up everything I had to be with her. What do you guys think? Help.

“Does he just want to date me for sex?”

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My friend set me up with a guy friend of hers. He texted me and we planned our first date. Our date went very well, we had dinner, drinks, dessert and made out a little at the end of the night. We texted a bit the next day and then I didn’t hear from him for a couple of days. When he finally texted again, he apologized for being MIA and we made plans for him to come by my place as I was ill.

He brought me some tea and soup. We watched a movie in my room and he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, without success, because I was sick. I asked if he’d like to get together the following day, he said yes, he’d be free after 7. Next day, sporadic texting and he didn’t end up being free until 11:30pm. I told him I was already in bed and let’s try again when we can hang earlier….no response. He went away for the weekend, so I figured I wouldn’t hear from him. I texted a quick, “hey stranger” 2 days after he got home, no response….that was 3 days ago. Yet he looked at my snapchat story, so I know he’s alive, but he hasn’t contacted me. I understand he’s a busy guy, but this is ridiculous. When we were planning our first date, the texts were frequent and answered almost immediately, now I get nothing. I thought we had really hit it off, but now nothing…..wtf?!

“Can I date another guy?”

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I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months now. When I met him he had a girlfriend, he was slightly flirty but I never thought anything of it. I’ve always really kind of liked him but never did anything obviously, because he had a girlfriend.

They broke up about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago we kissed and have been texting non stop ever since. We ended up having sex a couple times as well over the past few weeks. We see each other every other day to hang out or to study since we are in the same college classes. I can’t seem to tell if he is talking to other girls or not. I want to ask him but I’m not sure how to bring up the convo because as I do want to date him I also understand that he is still kind of newly single and probably doesn’t want to rush into anything.

I’m also absolutely fine with just doing whatever we are doing. I just want to know if it is okay for me to go on a date with another boy if I was asked or if we are somewhat exclusive. Above all else I don’t want to hurt our friendship or whatever we have going on. Any advice?

“I want us to have multiple sexual partners”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and I love him dearly. The problem is that I have the desire to sleep with other people, and having multiple partners is a turn on for me, but I still want to only be with my boyfriend emotionally and him with me.

He could sleep with other people too if he wanted, but I’ve dipped my toe in the water and he doesn’t seem interested in it and I don’t wanna leave him, but how can we be together if we aren’t on the same sexual desires? Opinions?

“My boyfriend spends more time with her than me”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about one year and everything has been going great. The thing is, is that we’ve only gone on two dates, and I’m fine taking things slow, but he hangs out with my best friend A LOT.

Almost every single weekend he has been going to the park with her and my other friend. Their siblings are dating, and that might be the cause of it, but I’ve known this girl for a really long time and she spends more time with him than she does with me, and the same with him spending more time with her. They also text me more when they’re together than when they’re apart.

He is the first one she goes to when she is upset and lately he’s been really distant. I’m pretty sure he hasn’t kissed me in two months and whenever I try to initiate the flirting he just ignores it. I don’t wanna be the jealous girlfriend but I don’t know what to do. Should I talk to him about it or just leave it be?

“Do I make a move on him?”

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I’ve been friends with a guy for a little over two years now. I had a crush on him when we first met, but he was in a long-term/long-distance relationship at that point, so I just stuck with friendship. About a year later, they broke up, but I had just started dating someone (we didn’t last long).

About a month later, he started dating someone else, and they’ve been together up until a few months ago. When we first met, he was always very physically affectionate, with hugs and back rubs and such. Once he started dating his most recent girlfriend, however, we didn’t see each other nearly as much, partially because we didn’t have any classes together and partially because he was spending time with his girlfriend.

Now that he’s single, we’ve been spending a lot of time together and he’s become really physically affectionate again. We hang out in his apartment, eating food and watching movies. I’ve slept over a few times, and we end up cuddling in his bed (just sleeping). I really like him, but I’m not exactly sure what to do. I’m not the most confident person in the world and I can also be kind of oblivious. Mainly, I’m afraid to make a move and possibly ruin a friendship.

“Is he shy or just not into me?”

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A friend of a work colleague asked me out for coffee after we spent an evening chatting on a work night out. We knew of each other before the night out but had never really chatted before. They’re older than me, but I know that they have a thing for younger women (this guy has a reputation for messaging women at night, randomly, nothing too creepy but still – not great!)

I went for the coffee and we (I think) had a great time. Chatted naturally and whilst the date ended with no physical contact (not even a hug,) he text me that evening to say it was good to catch up. I’ve text him since with a tiny bit of small talk but he hasn’t asked me out again. He hasn’t been creepy or inappropriate. Given his reputation I am surprised he’s not being more forthcoming… Am I being stupid why hasn’t asked me out again? His friend (my work colleague who doesn’t know about our coffee date) told me he was single, shy, and a really nice guy and I do get that vibe from him. Is he shy and waiting for me to ask him out? Or – just not that into me?!