“I’m sleeping with my co-worker”

I’ve been dating a guy from work for the last 3 months. We’ve worked together for a year, but things finally started recently. We go out when our busy schedules permit it, and we always have a good time. We started sleeping together. He compliments me, pleases me sexually (takes his time on me in the bedroom), and motivates me in so many other areas of life. He’s supportive and gives great advice.

Our communication has waned in the last few weeks but we still see each other and are intimate. We have only had sex about 5 or 6 times. I’m a very passive person, but I want to make sure our situation is not based on the physical. How can I approach the situation? Any tips on how to have this conversation? I do want to pursue a relationship with him but I want to protect myself from getting hurt.

“He says we’re too attached”

I started talking to this guy about two years ago. We work in the same field, so that is how we met. We started with just chatting, and then after about 3 or 4 months, he disappeared. I thought he did not want to move further, so I let it go.

Then we met again at an event, and we started to chat again. After 3 or 4 months, he told me that he liked me, but he couldn’t have a serious relationship. He was just not ready. So we agreed on having a no-strings-attached relationship. At first, it was not much different than before we agreed to do this no-strings-attached thingy. We met up only once in three months. We chatted mostly.

But as time went by, we started to become more and more close. We chatted more frequently, we had countless meals together, we spent nights at each other’s places — sometimes several nights in a row. We also had sex. Continue reading

“My casual relationship is getting too serious for me”

I have been casually dating a guy for six months. About two months into our relationship, I slept with another guy, then shortly afterwards broke off our relationship to return to an ex. I very quickly realised that this was a mistake, and returned to the first guy. We had a proper conversation which appeared to resolve the issue. I then moved country, and we continued to Skype almost daily. Our conversation and interaction remained intimate. Although I was aware that from time-to-time he would go to a club and kiss another girl, this appeared to drop off, as it did for me, and I was fairly clear and upfront about the fact that I was not seeing anyone else. He told me this was the case also.

I visited him again, and then he visited me, and, having discussed it a few times, we decided to commit to each other, with one of us moving country to be with the other. However, he also told me that during the time I had been away, he had slept with someone else once, while drunk, and although he felt guilty, he had not seen it as a big deal because there had been no clearly delineated boundaries or ‘end goal’ for our relationship.

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