When I met my now-husband two years ago, he had a friend whom he had met while dating his ex (her cousin). Sweet guy. Young and naive. They race cars and karts, and they enjoy working on them together.
Anyway, fast-forward to my wedding and our new marriage. We have a bbq every week, and this guy comes along and brings nothing. No drinks or meat. When I spoke to my husband, he said no, that John helps him a lot when it comes to racing and building, so he doesn’t mind.
I mind. I think this boy is a complete sponge.
Then to compound on that, I have not had one week without this guy coming over a minimum of twice a week. Sometimes it goes up to 4-5 times!
I’ve complained to my husband, and he has just told John that we are a new marriage and he must give us space, not that he must start contributing and stop sponging.
My husband asked that I come and support him at a race. So I obliged, knowing that John would be there. I sat back and watched this boy obsess over my husband, always needing to be his number one.
I feel like I am losing my mind! I know my husband isn’t cheating or anything, but it feels like he is. He sits on the couch next to me and they message each other constantly. My husband doesn’t see that John is obsessed with him, so he doesn’t see and issue. He just now keeps us apart from each other. When John comes over, he doesn’t come inside, he only stays in the garage.
I apologize if it doesn’t quite make sense. Please feel free to ask questions. Please someone tell me what to do. I am really losing my mind. So much so that I am considering going to see a professional.