“I’m breastfeeding and don’t want my husband touching my breasts”

My husband and I have three kids, and I am still breastfeeding the youngest. I’ve requested that while I’m still breastfeeding, I really don’t want him to touch my breasts. They just have a different sensitivity right now, and it doesn’t feel good at all. In fact, it puts me out of the mood almost instantly if anything touches my nipples, to the point that I don’t even go bra-less at night.

This being our third child, these limitations are nothing new. The last time we had sex, though, he kept reaching for my breasts. I was trying to subtly push him away, but he wasn’t getting the message, or at least was pretending he doesn’t. Now I don’t know whether to mention it to him, but it’s been several weeks, and I still DREAD having sex because I think he might do it again.

Do I talk to him about it? What do I say exactly? Do I just need to be more clear while it’s happening that I want him to stop, or is this something we should talk about ahead of time?

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2 thoughts on ““I’m breastfeeding and don’t want my husband touching my breasts”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Talk to him. He can’t read your mind. Do it in a nuetral zone when you are not having sex.
    “My breasts hurt and it doesn’t feel good right now for them to be touched, because of the breast feeding. Lets try this type of affection again when I am done breast feeding during sex, but for now we need to skip it. “

  2. svswartwood says:

    I would definitely talk to him about it. I had the same issue for such a long time but I told my husband that the way to get me into bed isn’t to grab my engorged boob. But tell him before you guys have sex again, you don’t want to ruin the moment by tell him right in the middle “lay off my boobs will ya?!”

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