“My boyfriend ignores me when we’re out and blows me off for his friends”

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We have never had a fight, but there are some things I want to talk to him about. I feel like I can’t though — I don’t want to upset him. There are so many things that are bothering me and I don’t think I can hold them in anymore.

It first started a few months ago, when we were in a group of people, and I wasn’t really saying anything because I’m a shy person, and he just steps in front of me and cuts me out of the group. Another time, we were at a party with a bunch of his friends, and I didn’t really know anyone, but he would just leave me alone and go talk to a group of girls. He’d go up to his friends talking about how one of them looked like Anna Kendrick.

Another time, I asked him if he could pick me up from school, but he told me he was going out to lunch with “the guys” and I believed him. Later on he tells me that he actually went to coffee with a girl, Johnnie. She’s his friend, so I wouldn’t be too upset about it if he didn’t lie to me, but, the lying is what made me upset.

He also likes a lot of girls’ pictures. On the fourth of July, I asked him to go to fireworks with me and my family. I wanted to spend the fourth with him. But before we are about to get him, he tells me that he’s not coming anymore because he had to get up early in the morning. But later that night, I find out he actually went to his friends house! Now lately whenever he actually has work off for once, he goes to hang out with his friend instead of me, and I feel like every time we do hang out, he just wants to do it.

I feel like he just wants to say he has a girlfriend, and he wants everyone to think we are a perfect couple, but we’re not. I don’t know how to tell him how I’m feeling. I can’t tell if he actually loves me or not.

3 thoughts on ““My boyfriend ignores me when we’re out and blows me off for his friends”

  1. Somebody says:

    He doesn’t have any respect for you. That’s not your fault, some guys just were brought up to think they can do whatever they want with no regard to the feelings of others. Leave him. You’ll find someone much better.

  2. Abe says:

    You don’t want to be a doormat in any relationship, specially in a romantic relationship. You should never feel like you can’t express yourself with your partner. If you feel like you can’t then there is something wrong. If he gets upset because you are being honest and expressing your feelings then he is a jerk. I honesty believe that you deserve someone that treats you better. I personally would not put up with lies and being blown off. You are a powerful being that deserves respect and attention. You have to value yourself if you want a guy to do so. It sounds like he only sees you when it’s convenient for him, when he feels like having sex and you are more than that.

  3. sam says:

    This way is really not correct. He should give you attention among his other friends. He should give you thee priority you deserve. It happened with me too. You don’t have to stand behind and watch everything happen. You need to tell him what you feel. Or you can make him feel the same way he does to you. Be more attentive to your friends or be more prior to your friends. If he really feels left out, he will understand what he did with you.

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