One Night Oral

I’m 18. The other day I got a little frisky with one of my friends. It was his first time for everything, even just kissing a girl, but not mine, for the past few days I’ve been feeling really anxious about what happened, I have a constant knot in my stomach and I can sense some feelings towards him. I didn’t want this to happen and he hasn’t text me or anything and I just wanna sort things out. He’s not been in any relationship before and being his friend I know that he gets attached quite easily, I don’t know if that’s going to be the case with me. I can’t tell if I want this to go anywhere either. Are these real feelings or am I just feeling like this because of the intimacy we shared. Please help!

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2 thoughts on “One Night Oral

  1. DavidIsGreat says:

    [Not everyone is capable of separating sex from emotions. It sounds like he, or you, or both of you might be in this category. I’m not sex-shaming you, I’m just telling you that this is a consequence of Sex for some people. A lot of people. Which is why I normally advise waiting on Sex until you’ve established an emotional connection first. This is not what you’re asking though.

    You’re asking if they are real feelings, the answer is kinda. When you have Sex your brain releases dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and lots of other stuff that gives you these feelings. Whenever you are intimate with someone you body gets this cocktail of stuff. Every time, chemically speaking. Which is why some people can’t separate, and why others leap into bad relationships so fast because they jumped into bed right away.

    Circling back to my original point, if you wait until a relationship is established first, you don’t have to wonder I these feelings are real or just dopamine. As this is too late for this time, my advice is have a conversation over a cup of coffee. In person would be best.

    I hope this helps sound preachy, but it’s the best way I can describe my answer to what you’re asking

    • Drew says:

      Well said on the biochemical reaction David. As far as what should you do now that you have done what you’ve done… Talk to him! He’s probably nervous about what to say to you. He may want to pursue you but is nervous about it. He may be worried that he has messed up a friendship. He may not be sure how he feels. He SHOULD approach you, but if he’s as new to this sort of thing as you say he is then you should approach him. Talking solves a lot of the questions that you’re working through.

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