I’ve been dating this guy for less than a month. He was a (platonic) friend of many years who reconnected with me to invite me for dinner. We had a wonderful time, talking about life and catching up. We were communicating every day. The same scenario played out for three dates, with the second and third dates ending in a little romance. I thought we were in a good place in every sense, emotionally and physically.
Although he continued to text me for several days after date three, his texts then stopped out of the blue and he blew off a date HE planned citing family emergency (which WAS a credible story). I didn’t freak out on him. I kept myself busy with friends even though I was upset, I didn’t tell him. I sent him support when he provided his reason. My texting with him has been limited to once a day or less. I’m not blowing up his phone 24/7 nor am I questioning what’s happening. I’m just letting life happen (but it’s breaking me inside).
He’s in a “zone” right now where, although he told me he is completely free to get together this week and he’s thinking about what we can do together, he is completely different than the man I knew last week. He was fine prior to and post intimacy and, all of a sudden, nothing. No texts to tell me about his day, ask me how my day was, see how I’m doing or attempt to connect. He’s done a 180. I’ve seen some guys do this for space, to collect their thoughts before moving forward in a relationship.Rubber Band Man? I’ve seen some guys do this because they’re not interested. Regardless, he sought me out. I like him, as a friend and possible bf, and I don’t know what to do. (We never discussed a status.) Clearly, we need to get together to have a conversation face to face. I don’t want to have it via text or phone. Family issues? Stress from work? Doesn’t want to commit? (I haven’t asked him to.) I don’t know what’s up with him but I’d like some advice. I’m almost afraid to reach out to him because I don’t know what’s going on. I WANT to reach out but….. I’d like to text him with some flirty text. I’d like to ask him if he’s ok. Don’t know my next move. Right now my next move is a holding pattern, as in I’m holding my breath and my heart.
Why would he change so quickly? Am I right to give him space to figure out some personal issue or should I call him saying, I’m concerned because you don’t seem to be yourself? We are friends. Not like we just met….but this is not who he is. Why is acting this way?
Please help! Thank you!!