Clingy Boyfriend

hello 🙂 so my boyfriend is really really clingy/needy and even though it’s fine but most of the time I feel suffocated. He got Twitter just to stalk me and reply to EVERY single tweet I tweet,wanted my snapchat even though I didn’t give it to him, created Tumblr bc I don’t go on Twitter because he is there and he got mad when I didn’t give him my password and even changed his place in class to sit exactly right behind me. Then he had the nerve to ask my friend why am I always so sad and it’s getting really annoying that she’s sad and I’m like okayy. Tbh I just really want to break up with him but if I do he will convince every single one of my guy friends to hate me. And even if I told him he was being clingy he would just laugh it off. I don’t want to hurt him but I’m extremely annoyed with him. Im his first girlfriend so my friend told me he doesn’t know all the couple stuffs. And he also wants to hug me but I don’t like affection and he won’t understand that. Please help me. Also, one major thing is that just because some people gave him a hard time he thinks he needs to be treated like a king. That annoys me the most bc I suffer from depression ,anxiety and I feel really suicidal so whenever I can’t do whatever he wants me to do He gets annoyed at me. Then if he is happy and I’m having a shitty day he automatically wants me to drop my problems and be happy with him like I can’t do that. Just please help me and what to do Im so confused.

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3 thoughts on “Clingy Boyfriend

  1. Joanna says:

    [Lose this dude. You don’t need that in your life. And if your friends are truly your friends, they’re not going to listen to what this guy has to say. I get it, life is hard. But don’t make it extra hard by weighing yourself down with someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

    Also, depression and anxiety are real problems. Seek help from mental health counselors. And don’t worry. Life gets better with age.

  2. EricaSwagger says:

    [Definitely get rid of him. This behavior is way too juvenile to deal with, and frankly, sounds exhausting. However I do have to add, the fact that you entered a relationship with this guy in the first place indicates to me that you’re not the most mature person, either.

  3. missmaria says:

    [You know, I once had a very clingy boyfriend. Of course he started off pretty decent and at the beginning of relationships you never know right? It’s all roses and hunky-dory until the honeymoon period is over i.e. the true colours come out (good or bad outcomes).

    After a few months, I moved to his city to be with him and it was great. Yet as soon as I started making new friends in a place where I was new, he didn’t like it. He didn’t like me occasionally socialising with them after work (I worked in a bar). I was told that being we were now living together, I had to come straight home and sit with him. Of course that didn’t fly and told him that I wasn’t going out EVERY night with my new friends but he couldn’t prevent me from making them.

    He then moved onto checking my phone (pre-smartphone password protection era) for text messages I had got from friends. Again not cool. This and all the other smothering actions – gripping my hand tightly, telling his mum every personal information we shared, and becoming very emotionally abusive. Just under a year of being with him had drained me physically and emotionally and I couldn’t do it anymore. The breaking point was unfortunately at work where I broke down in front of a regular patron and the supervisor offered me a spare room in his shared house.

    It seems like there’s only so much you’re going to take before you go the same way, and if I remember how it was, it was really horrible. If the relationship is triggering your anxiety and depression to the point of suicidal thoughts, you need to get out now. There is only one of you and that’s the one you need to be taking care of now.

    Do not feed your boyfriend’s idle threats, which is just another tactic in the emotional abusers handbook. If your friends are willing to believe his lies, then let them. Find out who your true friends are, which is often the case when tragedy strikes. The real ones do come through and will help you.

    When you do break up with him – it will be hard but you need to be direct and stand your ground i.e. not falling for his pleas to not break up with him. Something along the lines of: “This isn’t working for me. I’m not happy at all and I deserve to be happy but I can’t being with you. ” Focus on YOUR future as a healthy and happy individual. You’ve survived before he came in your life and you’ll continue to survive without him.

    I wish you the very best.

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