My fiancé and I have been together for six years. We own a house together and live together. But six months ago, I began having doubts about our long-term compatibility.
I love discussing big issues: religion and politics. He can’t stand it.
I’m deeply spiritual; he’s firmly agnostic.
I crave affection; he doesn’t.
Recently, the physical intimacy has completely ended. We never touch. Ever. He’s even mentioned twice that he’s no longer attracted to me, but he’s attracted to other people.
He talks about marriage and stability and material comfort, but I wonder if he wants those things generally (with anyone), not necessarily with me specifically. More and more, I feel like we’ve become roommates or friends, instead of a couple.
Breaking up would be messy. He’s a great guy; we share the same friends; our lives are so intertwined.
I don’t want to mess up my life, but I’m so unhappy. Why isn’t he? Is this the life he wants? Is this normal?