I am a single female, 27 years old. I met a guy at a bar (Confession: I was really drunk and don’t remember most of our meeting) and gave my number to him. I got a text the next morning asking if I wanted to go out sometime, and I agreed. A few days later we went out for appetizers and drinks, then to a karaoke bar. My first impressions of him were that he was nice, but a little awkward but first dates can be awkward. The night finished with just a hug, and I figured that was OK since we were just getting to know each other.
We went out a second time last night, this time was ice skating and an open mic night at a local bar. Again we talked and he seems nice, but there was no flirting, not even trying to hold my hand during ice skating or even trying to put an arm around me, nothing. I tried to flirt with him, with touches on the arm or taking his hand so I could “get a better look at his class ring”, playfully hitting him when he made a joke, etc. but I feel weird doing more than that if he’s not going to reciprocate.
At this point I’m even wondering what his level of interest really is. He said he wants to go out again so I’m giving him another shot. My question is, do I just straight up ask him why he hasn’t even tried to make the most innocent of moves? (I mean, come on. I had more action than this when I held hands with my “boyfriend” in 7th grade!) Do I grab him and kiss him and see what happens? I’m just confused. I know that I wanted a nice guy who wasn’t just trying to hit it and quit it, but if he hasn’t done more than a perfunctory hug at the start and end of a date then that’s taking it a little too slow for me.