How should I tell him or let him know?

I really like this boy that goes to my school thats Im 50% sure he might like me but I dont want to tell him I like him or ask him if he likes me back because if he doesnt then its going to be so awkward
I was hoping you could help me, my friends tell me I shouldn’t stay in the friend-zone for too long because then I probably stay there and that I have to act like I like him, like show it to him, but I dont know what to do, how do I get around to the topic? How do I tell him?

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3 thoughts on “How should I tell him or let him know?

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    [Having been in many an “awkward” situation as you describe, I think I have some insights to share here….

    First off, I agree that you don’t want to stay in the friend zone for too long, but not for the reason it seems like your friends are giving you. To me, the problem with the friend zone is that the longer you’re in it, the more you start to put the person you like on a pedestal. Every relationship is going to have its difficulties, and no two people will ever be 100% compatible. But the only way to find that out is by actually dating the other person. I mean, that’s sort of the whole point of dating in the first place, right?

    So what happens if you’re interested — but not dating the other person — is that you start to idealize a relationship with them. You don’t get to experience the goods and the bads, so of course, you’re only going to fantasize about the potential goods. And that means you end up falling for an unrealistic version of the other person.

    Hopefully, it’s obvious that this is not a good place to get yourself into. And of course, the longer you stay in the pining-for-someone-who-may-or-may-not-be-available zone, the worse your feelings will likely get.

    Having said that, my suggestion is that you get yourself out of this so-called friend zone as soon as possible. Find out, on way or another, whether he’s interested. And then you can either go for it or move on with your life.

    Now, as for how to show him that you’re interested, I’ll throw out some suggestions, and maybe some of the other people on here will chime in. But first, I do want to say this:

    No matter what you do, you’re always going to risk making it awkward. There’s no way around that. You can be the smoothest person in the world, but if you express interest in someone, and they’re just not interested, it will always be a bit awkward for a while. So, my advice to you — not just for this guy, but with any future guys you can date — is just to accept that things can get awkward. But, as they say, no great reward comes without risk. Sure, you’re taking a risk. But then again, you might end up getting together with someone you really like. Someone’s gotta take that first step, right?

    Alright, so what can you do to show your interest?

    Make eye contact with him. Smile at him. Be flirty and affectionate. Touch him when appropriate (i.e., not in a creepy, gropey way). Laugh at his jokes (but don’t overdo it).

    Or, you know, you could just ask him out….

  2. Joanna says:

    [Ask him to hang out with you. Be specific as to the timeframe, like Friday after school or Saturday evening. Perhaps there is an ice cream shop near you. Ask him if he’d like to get a cone sometime. Or if he would like to go to the mall with you. Roller skating maybe? If he says yes, that’s a good sign. If he is busy at that time but says I’m free at xyz different time, work with that. If he makes excuses or flat-out says no then you have your answer.

  3. Lynnda says:

    [I agree with asking him to hang out. The thing about guys is if they like you they will make time for you. There won’t be any ‘I have to clean my room’ ‘I already have plans’ etc.

    So. Just ask,, ‘Hey.. Do you want to go to xxx on Saturday? It’ll be fun”. If he is into you he will say yes OR offer up another day/time. If he doesn’t then move on. There’s someone out there who will make you their priority.

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