I have a male friend I’ve known for about 10 years now. We went to college together, lost touch for a few years, then reconnected through Facebook about a year ago when it turned out that we live in the same city and work in the same field.
Since then, we’ve become pretty close and I have really grown to value his friendship. We’ve worked together now on a few projects through our respective companies (we’re in the same field, but work for different companies).
We met up for a work happy hour two weeks ago and I had a fun time catching up with him, but he made some comments that now have me thinking he’s interested in something more. I should probably add that this is the first time since we’ve known each other that we’ve both been single at the same time, so the question of interest has never come up before.
But here’s the thing…I don’t think I’m willing to risk our friendship right now. I do think we could work well together, but there are a few things about him that make me kind of hesitant to think we could ever work out in the long term. That’s not to say that I would rule him out completely, but it just has me thinking that I’d rather not pursue anything.
Well, today he invited me out to go salsa dancing with him, and that feels kind of like a date to me. But who knows? Maybe he does see it as a friend thing. So, I’m not sure how to handle it at this point. Should I say something from the getgo and tell him I’m only interested in being friends? I don’t want to assume anything, since he still may not be romantically interested at all. But all the same, I don’t want to get into an awkward situation.