This is going to be hard for me because I rarely voluntarily admit my personality flaws to anyone, even myself.
I had a first date this past Saturday with a guy who seems pretty great, and I’m a harsh critic when it comes to guys so that’s saying a lot. We’ve been texting for a couple weeks and finally got to hang out.
Sober, I’m a flirtatious person. I play it cool and I poke fun and I smile and I make harmless innuendos that you’d really only pick up on if you were looking for them. I am this way with men and women, if I want people to like me, and usually it works fine. It’s just how I am. But drunk, I get VERY friendly.
While I think it’s a good sign that the guy texted me the following day (he could have just blown me off), he mentioned that I was flirting too much with his friend that we met up with. All I could do was apologize, but I felt absolutely horrible about it. I know he wasn’t exaggerating, I’m sure I was flirting with his friend because I know myself. I had been drinking and I got too comfortable with the situation.
I also can get a little braggy. So after apologizing for the flirting I said “I swear I’m not this much work, I’m a nice girl” and he said “We’ll see about that.” Then I said “I really have to stop saying positive things about myself to you lol” because at that point I felt like I’d kind of dug myself into a hole. He said “Oh god yeah I almost forgot about all the back patting that went on, mostly by you, about you.”
The conversation was being had in a flirtatious tone, so he wasn’t being mean or rude, but the whole thing made me feel like UGH I FUCKED UP. The conversation ended a little awkwardly and we haven’t talked at all today.
Can I salvage this or should I crawl into a hole and never contact him again?