This is mostly venting. I’ve been talking to a guy for like two months ish? We haven’t hung out a lot (three times) due to busy/conflicting schedules, but we’ve talked a ton. We would text pretty much all day every day, up until this week.
We spent time together this past Friday, and though I thought we had a good time obviously it’s possible I’m missing something. He’d been distant/flaky all weekend and most of this week, and the past two days has been completely silent. I keep making excuses for him in my head, “oh he’s busy with midterms” etc. and it’s bullshit.
Before anyone asks “Well do you reach out to him first or always leave it up to him to make contact?” I generally let the dude do the reaching out, but this week I’ve texted him first a few times, and he’d engage but then disappear. Three conversations like that and I’m not about to try again and embarrass myself.
Now, I’m no idiot. I assume he doesn’t like me anymore and of course I can’t change that. My problem is I just feel like I need to know WHY. I need to know what happened. Did I do something he didn’t like? Or was he just not feeling it? Either way, I want to know. I want to know so I can delete his number, move on, and not give him any more time/thought than he deserves.
I think it’s absolute bullshit that pretty much no matter what I text him at this point, I’ll come off looking crazy. I’m so not one to demand to be treated a certain way, but if I say nothing, he gets off scot-free. He doesn’t have to man up and tell me he’s not into it, and I sit around for days wondering wtf I could possibly have done wrong.
I think I HAVE to text him something. I have to know what happened. But what do I say?