Here’s my online dating profile

Hi everyone! So I haven’t been getting any responses lately to the messages I’ve been sending out online. About 20-25 of the last messages have gotten no response, and some of the guys are even listed as “replies often”. The messages I tend to send out are something like “Hi! I’m {name}. I also enjoy hiking, what are some of your favorite places to hike around here? How long have you lived in this area?” I’ll usually mention something I like about their profile or comment on something intriguing. Maybe I just need to be hotter or something, or get better photos, but it’s kind of depressing to be getting no response. Anyway, here’s my profile – any input would be appreciated! I did just edit it recently and took out some info that I didn’t think was that relevant. But the messages I’ve sent out since then haven’t gotten a response either. The headers are automatically part of the profile.

My self-summary
I’m working as a meteorologist in {area redacted}. Weather is my passion, especially severe weather, and I would love to see a tornado…it’s one of my life goals. I’ve gone storm chasing in the Great Plains, and had an amazing experience, but didn’t see any tornadoes. I enjoy yoga and hiking – this is such a beautiful area with many great places to hike! I’m a Yankee fan, and can get into pretty much any sport – college hockey is another fun one. I love a good microbrew and think it’s great that there are so many local breweries making tasty beer. I have a soft spot for wine from the Finger Lakes as I went to college in that region and have visited many of the wineries there. I like traveling to places both new and familiar, and enjoying the local food and drink. I’ve been to 36 states and hope to visit all 50 eventually.

What Iím doing with my life
I’m a meteorologist for a private forecasting company. I’ve wanted to be a meteorologist since I was 9, so it’s pretty cool that I’m actually doing that now.

Iím really good at
Cooking and baking, trivia, naming a song as soon as it comes on the radio, being enthusiastic about the weather.

The first things people usually notice about me
My wavy hair.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Prep, Wild, The Things They Carried, Watership Down, Girl With a Pearl Earring, A Prayer For Owen Meany.

Movies: Hard to pick. My favorite movie that I’ve seen recently is Argo. Clueless is a timeless classic.

TV Shows: The Office, Mad Men, How I Met Your Mother, and Glee.

Music: Bruce Springsteen, The Rolling Stones, Billy Joel, The Eagles, Bob Seger, Elton John, Dave Matthews Band, Barenaked Ladies, Foo Fighters, Jimmy Eat World, Counting Crows, and many more.

Foods: HOT buffalo wings, a good burger, homemade lasagna, pizza (especially my dad’s homemade kind), short ribs, Indian, Thai, Mexican, any kind of hot and spicy food.

The six things I could never do without
Excluding the obvious: music, laughter, photos, my computer, thunderstorms, books. I spend a lot of time thinking about

On a typical Friday night I am
Having a drink with a friend or at home relaxing.

The most private thing Iím willing to admit
When I was in 5th grade, I fell in a lake in front of my first ever crush.

You should message me if
You are a guy who does any of the following: cooks, gardens, is handy around the house and with cars, plays an instrument, loves animals, owns a record player. I find those things to be quite sexy.

3 thoughts on “Here’s my online dating profile

  1. EricaSwagger says:

    [First off I’m going to say that it’s actually really hard as a girl to make first contact. It’s a biological fact that men tend to generally feel like they should make the first move. [Not always; there are definitely some guys who appreciate a girl to take control, but I’m not sure if that’s what you’re looking for.] So a lot of guys might take your messages as needy or too forward right off. It sucks, but it’s just something you have to understand as a girl reaching out to guys.

    I’m going to take your profile point by point, because why not!

    Your Self-Summary tells us a lot about you — almost too much. Some of the sentences are things you should let someone ask you (like whether or not you’ve seen a tornado and why you got into meteorology, and why you like hiking and finger lakes wine) or stories to tell on a date. Here’s my (short and sweet) rewrite:

    “I’m working as a meteorologist in {area redacted}. I love weather, yoga and hiking. I’m big into the Yankees and college hockey, but not just those! I love a good micro-brew and have a soft spot for wine from the Finger Lakes. I love travelling and trying regional foods, and I’ve visited 36 of the 50 states (and counting!).”

    Ok, Now. Just because OKC allows you to answer every category doesn’t mean you should answer them all. And again (just my opinion) I think you just put too much info in.

    Your “What I’m Doing” and “I’m Good At” are fine. I don’t think you need to change them. I would however change or remove your “First Thing People Notice” section. It’s just stating the obvious and is totally unnecessary. If you want to keep it, consider putting in something like “I smile a lot” or “I’m shy at first”. Something that people can’t figure out just from photos.

    For your books, movies, shows, music and food… I just gotta reiterate. Shorten it! Take out the books that most guys probably haven’t read. It’s great that you like literature but when you list books like that, I think a lot of guys get the impression that you’re book-y and might be “too smart” for them. Take stuff out or generalize it. For music, I’d just put “I listen to a lot of classic rock and 90’s music” or whatever, and for food, shorten it to something like “I love American food (burgers, wings, pizza), and anything spicy!”

    Get rid of the “Most Private Thing”. You can tell that story on a date.

    And finally, you’re asking a lot from your “Message Me If” section. One guy can’t match all of those requests, and it’s intimidating to read your “here’s what I want in a guy” list. I suggest just changing it to “If you want to talk to a pretty cool girl” or “If you breathe air.” Just be playful!

    I use a lot of exclamation points. That’s just me and how I am. When someone is reading about me, I want them to feel like I’m excited and happy about myself. Using all periods kind of reads like “Here’s some info about me.” (Boring!) But if you say “Here’s some info about me!” It kind of gives a fun, flirty vibe.

    Good luck and sorry for this insanely long reply!

  2. Matt Sanchelli says:

    [As a guy who has [more than he’d like to admit] experience with online dating, I always look forward to reading a message from a woman who has taken the step to make first contact…as long as it’s a message of substance.

    This doesn’t seem to be a problem with you. When it comes to you sending a first message to a guy, keep on doing what you’re doing. The only thing I could recommend that may help get a response would be to focus in on one or two things that he mentions and ask him a question or two about it along the lines of asking for his advice or help. Guys like to help and be “hero” so if we can solve a problem we’re going to take that opportunity. Perhaps a guy has rock climbing listed as an interest. Mention it and ask him for some tips because you keep on slipping off the wall. Or, if he likes cooking something in particular you can say you’ve never been able to make “one of those’ successfully and ask for his secret.

    As for your profile…

    Take any mentioning of your job our of the ‘Self Summary’. What you have there, trim a little and put in the ‘What I’m Doing With My Life’. Having it in both places just takes up space and is redundant.

    I have to say I greatly disagree with Erica’s advice regarding the books, movies, music, food, etc. I say do not shorten it. List your favorite books, movies, tv, food, etc.

    To me, generalizing those areas come across as lazy and I’m most likely going to glance over the profile and not give it two-cents worth of thoughts. Sure, you could put “I listen to rock and 90’s”, but by listing bands you really like you’re giving a guy something more solid than a genre to connect with. Instead of me asking, “oh, what type of rock bands do you like?”, I can ask a better question like, “I listen to Mixtape all the time, what was your favorite song from Jimmy’s “Invented” album?”

    Overall…be fun, be quirky, and make the guy laugh.

  3. Dennis Hong says:

    [I’m late to this, but I’ve been thinking about how to respond, and… well, I don’t know what you’re doing wrong. Maybe it’s just due to the numbers game issue, and the guys you’re messaging are the guys who are getting bombarded with messages?

    The only parts I personally think are unnecessary are the lists: movies, books, foods, etc. I just don’t think those reveal much about you. And I have read that if you fill in *too* much information, then it can be kind of a turn-off. Better to just focus on a few aspects of your life that you think are worth sharing (the storm chasing part I thought was cool), and leave the rest for in-person meetings.

    My two cents….

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