Hello, everyone. Long time no see.
I’m back mostly because I’m in crisis. First, a little background: My boyfriend and I met several years ago and were friends a long time before we hooked up. He was a virgin that whole time and I was his first. I, however, have done my fair share of stupid things. The good that came out of all those stupid things is that I really know what I like and don’t sexually.
When we first started dating I chalked his awkwardness and shyness up to him being inexperienced. But, here we are two years later and I’m still not getting the passion and confidence I need out of him.
Here’s my problem, I love him with everything I am and the thought of leaving him over something so trivial is insane to me. I have suggested everything from counselling to swinging (in hopes that he could explore and learn more) and every time I do, he just shuts down and gets sad. I’ve assured him that I don’t love him any less and that I am still attracted to him, but I just can’t get him to open up.
I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I can’t spend it wound up and frustrated. Any ideas?