The first time my boyfriend and I ever had a conversation about the future, it was super heavy. We discussed what we would do if I were pregnant and we found out there was a birth defect or if there were some sort of complication where my life was at risk because of the unborn baby.
We were in perfect agreement on both issues. My life and our life as a couple, should always be considered more important than that of the life of our unborn baby. Save me, not the baby. Protect our future, we can always try again.
I was watching a re-run of Scrubs the other day and this issue came up. A pregnant woman had a heart defect and could die if they didn’t deliver the baby RIGHT NOW — about two months early — which of course meant the baby might not make it. The wife was knocked out to prevent stress on her heart, which left the decision up to the husband: Save his wife, or save his baby?
He ended up choosing to save his baby. (And actually his wife ended up pulling through too but hey, it’s a TV show so that’s not really the point.) I have to say, if I’d woken up to find out that my husband chose to save an unborn baby he’d never met, over the wife he promised to spend his life with, I’d have been really pissed off. Guess it’s a good thing my boyfriend and I have already talked about it.
Where do you guys stand?