I met a guy at a friend’s wedding a little over a month ago. We ended up hooking up, and I had a good time with him talking and getting to know him. He lives about 3.5 hours away from me – he’s originally from the area I live in. He told me to let him know if I’d ever be in his city.
Well, last weekend I was in his city, and I texted him ahead of time to let him know I’d be in town, and asked if he wanted to get a drink or something. He said yeah, let’s meet up, so we did and I had a really great time. He picked me up, we went out for food and drinks, then went out later with his friends, and I spent the night at his place and we hooked up again. The conversation flowed easily and smoothly all night, there was joking and flirting along with more serious talk – it was a lot of fun. He seems to have the qualities I’m looking for in a guy – he’s intelligent, funny, social, has lots of interests, we’re at similar points in our lives, plus he’s really cute.
The next morning after he drove me back to my friend’s place, we hugged goodbye and said that we had fun. Neither of us mentioned meeting up again. I almost did, but I chickened out. I really like this guy, and I’d love to see him again. I’m not saying that I want to start a relationship, but that I’d like to spend more time with him, get to know him better, and see if it goes as well as the first time.
So my question is: how should I go about mentioning that I’d like to see him again/finding out if he wants to see me again? I feel like I have nothing to lose. I was planning on texting him later this week to say thanks again for everything (he paid for dinner, drinks, taxi, etc.) and that I had a good time. I don’t know if I should say something about how it would be nice to see him again sometime. Or if I should text him something random and funny that we were joking about over the weekend, and see how he responds to that. I wish I knew what he was thinking! Alas, the main pitfall of dating. It was just so wonderful to spend time with someone who excites me, interests me, and attracts me.