I’ve never posted here, but this seems like a thoughtful and intelligent forum and I’d love to get your advice.
I created my first ever online dating profile ever about three weeks ago, and it has been going swimmingly. I’ve gotten a lot of interest, had a few really awkward dates, and met two guys that seem really promising for the future. They apparently agree: we have second and third dates planned (in both cases). I think everyone’s on the same page as far as wanting to find someone with whom there is potential a serious relationship. My question is: should I tell either of them that I’m seeing other people? And if so, how should I do it? I don’t want to unnecessarily cause drama, but I also don’t want to have secrets that could hurt someone if they found out unexpectedly. I’m pretty sure it’s way too soon to be talking about being exclusive… I don’t expect/want to be multi-tasking like this for long, but I wanted to give each fledgling relationship a chance to figure out who is the better match for me (and it’s hard because they both seem really really great). Maybe I should have tried to space out the first dates more, but I’ve gotten so many messages that it felt like I might as well dive right in and meet as many people as possible.
Anyway, I’ve never done the formal “dating” thing (in the past, I have ended up in relationships with people who I knew, and I’ve never actually been dating multiple people at the same time), so I really appreciate your input and wisdom! Thank you everyone.