So, I’ve been single for a couple of years now- by my own choice- due to things I realized about myself that weren’t conducive to any sort of long-term goals. In short, I saw a lot of things in myself I disliked, and decided to take a break so I could address those things inside causing me to sabotage myself in relationships.
Now, 2 years later, I’m thinking I’m ready to start up again. But, over the past 2 years of digging, analyzing, and pretty much shutting myself down to the idea of being with another person, it’s tough to feel comfortable venturing forth into the waters again, so to speak. I also don’t drink anymore, so that in itself presents another challenge and reason for me to talk myself out of it, because previously that was the thing to do when meeting guys. Any advice on any of the above concerns? I should specify I’m a female, early 30s if that helps give context.