Online Dating question

My friend just started dating online recently. Neither of us have any experience with it, and we only know one other person who’s ever tried it, so we’re trying to figure it out.

She just met someone online last week who she seems to like a lot. She went on two dates with him over the weekend, and she’s all about him now. I worry that she’s getting ahead of herself and getting her hopes up because I’ve read about so many people being frustrated with not finding anyone online. He seems really into her too. To everyone who’s dated online before, is this normal? Do you think it’s possible to find someone within a couple of weeks? And how long do you wait before becoming exclusive with someone you met online? I’m very very happy for her, but I’m scared she’ll get hurt. She turns to me for advice, and since I don’t have any online dating experience, I want to hear what some other people think.

4 thoughts on “Online Dating question

  1. EricaSwagger says:

    [Well of course it’s possible that she met someone already. You could fall in love with and marry the very first person you meet with online dating.

    You can’t give people advice when they already know what they want to hear. If she’s thrilled to be with this guy and he seems to be in the same boat, there won’t be any talking her out of it. But if she’s coming to you because she’s nervous things are moving to fast with this new guy, then that’s a good sign her head is in the right place.

    On the one hand, odds are slim that the first guy she met is the perfect guy for her. But that doesn’t mean he’s not. She should take him for what he is — a guy she’s known for two weeks. Just because it feels right doesn’t mean it is. She could WANT it to be right so badly that she’s blocking out things that would otherwise be red flags. She should remind herself constantly how little she knows about him, and worry about exclusivity when there’s been more of a back story for the two of them.

    Online dating is hard because you have so little information about each other. You need to know a person as a person before you should consider them as a partner.

  2. Solstice says:

    [Just because other people may be frustrated with online dating doesn’t mean that it’s abnormal that your friend already found someone. Just how some people may find a partner quickly in non-online dating, the same thing can happen online. She needs to make sure he feels the same way about the relationship that she does, or else there is the potential for her to get hurt. But there’s no real difference, once you meet, in how things progress in online dating vs. non-online dating – at least in my opinion. You can be exclusive whenever you want to be as long as you talk about it and you’re both on the same page.

    My most recent boyfriend, I met on Match and it was my second stint on Match. My first was a month long, I went out with one guy once. The second was also a month long and I ended up dating the first guy I met through Match. We were exclusive after 2 weeks. There’s really no right or wrong time frame.

  3. Happy Pants says:

    [It’s possible that they’re both “genuinely” into each other and it’s the “real” thing. But honestly, after years of online dating experience, I’ve found that I get serious way too fast with these guys, then realize after a couple of months (or, let’s be honest, weeks) that I was just lonely.

    If she seems happy, don’t say anything to her about it. If it’s the real thing, the story has a happy ending. If it’s not and she’s getting ahead of herself, she’ll learn through experience.

  4. LMcMack says:

    [So let’s take the “online” aspect out of the picture for a moment. Let’s say she met this guy at the gym, and the same scenario applied. Would you still feel she moved too fast?

    I don’t think the fact that they met online has anything to do whatsoever with your question. No matter how someone may meet their love interest, things progress at different rates for different people. There simply is no real answer to this.

    As long as she remains happy, then just be happy FOR her.

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