I’ve been friends with this girl for six years, after we graduated she moved across the country and we stayed in touch, but…
It feels like she only calls me when she wants to vent. She’ll text me at ridiculous hours (10 am on a random workday) asking if I’m available to talk to her or texting, “Are you available to talk later today? I need to sort some stuff out.” This happens maybe once a month or every other month.
On the one hand, she’s had a difficult move back home because she’s pretty lonely and doesn’t have many friends there. On the other, she never calls me just to have a regular friendly call and has even mentioned it herself. “I feel terrible. I only call you when I’m having a crisis!” When she says this I jokingly suggest she should call me more often. When I call her, she’s usually busy so I’ve stopped.
When she lived here we hung out regularly, and she did complain about things but it wasn’t such a central feature of our friendship. I’ve given her advice, but some new ‘thing’ always comes up. I really do value the friendship we had so I don’t want to dump it, but I feel it’s very one-sided now. Has anyone ever had a similar experience, and how should I go about addressing this?