One afternoon I was sitting at a Starbucks, doing a little reading, when I overheard a young woman (I’m guessing somewhere in her 20?s) making the following comment to a Barista (they were apparently friends):
“If a guy is 40 and he’s never been married that is a red flag.”
The interesting thing is that roughly around that same time, this subject was briefly discussed in a Podcast I listen to (from time to time) called ‘Sex with Emily’. In this podcast they had some listeners call in with their take on this topic. I was surprised to hear how many people agree with this and how it was all directed negatively towards men.
The above had me thinking, is there an expiration date to being single? How long is it “appropriate” to have never been married before you become the proverbial dating-leper?
Let’s apply this to both men and women?
Questions for you:
Guys, at what age would you consider it a ‘red flag’ if someone you were interested in dating had never been married, and for arguments sake let’s also include never being engaged. Why?
Girls, same questions.
I understand that this isn’t necessarily “black ‘n’ white”. There are always going to be possible unknown factors (valid factors) that could explain why a person has never been married/engaged.
I’m 31 and in a very serious relationship; but for the case of this conversation let’s hypothetically say I’m 40 and single.
Having never really been a “serial dater” let’s say by age 40 I have been in three (3) serious relationships (last 6 months or longer). Using historical data we’ll estimate that I dated about 30 girls in the last 20 years; dating being defined as having gone out on a minimum of 3 dates.
My estimated average of Serious Relationships to Girls Dated is One out of Ten (1:10).
I have a steady job, close friendships, extra-curricular interests; most of them social in one way or another. Unless my friends have been lying to me all these years I have a great personality, sense of humor, level head and many other admirable qualities.
What there makes me a dating liability? Why does the red flag go up? Knowing only what was written above, what would someone speculate that could be considered a “warning”?