First impressions are incredibly important and shape how we view a person for the rest of the time that we know them. So, what things on the first date will turn you off and make you not want to pursue things further.
First impressions are incredibly important and shape how we view a person for the rest of the time that we know them. So, what things on the first date will turn you off and make you not want to pursue things further.
LemonVibe 
[It would seem that you have your own listening problems– talking to yourself and all 😛
This is why I try to give things more than one date. A first impression can unfairly skew your opinion of who the person is. Often people try to be something they are not just to impress their date. I want to see the real person that is under that shell before I make a decision.
[Good question.
The main things that would turn me off on the first date were outright rudeness and talking 90% of the time. The talking thing was because if you’re constantly talking about yourself and won’t let the other person get a word in, how are you going to listen long enough to get to know me and start a relationship? Listening is important.
Also, I said “would” because I’m in a relationship now and don’t go on a lot of fisr dates any more.
[So if she fills out the tedious paperwork…that means she’s NOT crazy?
Flawless
[Being rude to the waiter or any service employee is pretty much a deal-breaker for me. Talking all about himself and not asking me any questions, or conversely not talking about himself AT ALL. If he’s picking me up, pulling up and honking instead of coming to the door. Showing no interest in any of my interests. Proclaiming “oh I don’t read.” when asked what good books he’s read lately. Liking ONLY slapstick comedy or action movies.
I suppose I could go on, but in general, be a nice, polite guy who shows interest in me and if we have some things in common, you’ll probably get a second date.
[Being rude to waitstaff: shows me that you’re a dick.
Talking uncontrollably: you’re either a narcissist or really nervous (see below).
Being incredibly nervous: it’s a first date, not nuclear disarmament. You need to be confident in who you are and not worry about it too much.
Mentioning any of the following words: vaginal, penetration, orgasm, rectal, racial slurs of any kind.
Appearing to be crazier than I am: there’s only enough room in a relationship for one crazy person, and I already meet that quota, thankyouverymuch.
[Too much drama makes for a bad first impression. Everyone has some baggage, but I prefer my crazy in small doses.
[If they smell bad, I can’t begin any kind of relationship with that person. Otherwise, I’m pretty forgiving.
[If he’s clearly not interested in women, as evidenced by his frequent mentions of Sex and the City, Gilt, and Skinny Girl cocktails. I just had a blind first date with a guy last night who very obviously is not into women. Deal-breaker!
But in seriousness, mentioning an ex is usually a red flag.
[I’m not going to go into the minutia of what would turn me off, but only to say that on a first date, there is often so much nervous energy afoot that you may not be seeing the real person at all. So, if the person confesses to being a neo-nazi and likes lighting stuff on fire… take that at face value. If they talk too much or giggle at everything you say then, let’s give them another chance, shall we?
[Being really, really, really quiet is almost as bad as talking nonstop. Either you really are so petrified at being out with me that you can’t think of ANYTHING to say, or you just don’t have much to say in general, and both of those are essentially dealbreakers.
Being cheap – I will ALWAYS offer to pay for half. You better offer too.
Checking the phone constantly.