“I don’t know how to deal with her ex’s”

Hi, I am a 26 year old man, I have recently entered what I believe to be and would like to be a serious relationship. I have some issues that I don’t know how to address. My new girlfriend is pretty good to me and seems to be loyal to the relationship.

That being said, there are several of her past intimate partners that she doesn’t want to let go of. I’m not normally a jealous person, but I’ve also never had to deal with this issue before. The primary issue is that most of her previous partners were friends of hers long before the intimacy started, and have remained friend’s after.

My issue is that when I mention having an issue with them still being around her and communicating with her, I always get excuses and reasons why I shouldn’t worry. Am I wrong for having a problem? Or is she wrong for keeping them around knowing that its an issue for me?

 

“My lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk”

Please help me. This is my first serious boyfriend. We’ve been together for a little over a year. He and I are in a strong long distance relationship, or so I thought. He moved away from me in Summer 2016. It’s been so amazing up until this point. We trusted each other tremendously and had planned a future and everything you could imagine a love stricken couple would do.

After this Christmas, he suddenly stopped talking to me. Maybe the occasional, awkward ‘hi’ if I was lucky. All of the sudden, my lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk. He would ignore me after I called him out on the issue, and he still does. Flash forward a month and it’s really rocky. We still talk, but it’s so awkward. It’s nothing like before Christmas. I’m seeing a side to him that I┬ádon’t like. Recently he has been denying the fact that I love him. He blows it off. I don’t say cutesy little things anymore or tell him I love him because then he’ll ignore me. I need help. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to assume things and be THAT girlfriend, but I’m fearing the worst. Please help.