“I’m disturbed after discovering my husband’s social media accounts”

My ┬áhusband and I have been married for 6 years through arranged marriage. We have a son (5) and a daughter (2). He was never on Facebook, whereas I have been for some years now. He never seemed inclined and I didn’t fuss over it. However, a few months back out of curiosity I searched his name on FB and realised he had opened an account for more than a year.

When I asked him, he shrugged off stating he never really used it and had opened one on insistence of his colleagues and to connect with friends from his days abroad. When I asked him why hadn’t he added me? He just avoided it saying he never uses it. Nevertheless, I added him and though he seemed reluctant, he eventually accepted it. I checked his account and indeed most people on his friends list were his colleagues from work and few old friends. He had a picture from his late 20s as his profile picture (he’s 40 now). He hadn’t filled out any details and he hadn’t put a single picture of us or our kids. I was not too happy but I thought he wanted to keep things private and professional and let it be.
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“My dad is overprotective and tells me not to follow my dreams”

I don’t know what to do about my dad. He and I have always disagreed on how I should live my life (I’m 19). He thinks that I shouldn’t follow my dreams, and that I should instead go to college to get a degree in something I don’t even like and have a career in something I hate.

My dream is to travel the world, and he HATES that I want to do that. He’s worried about my safety out in the dangerous world (which I understand) but traveling is the thing that makes me feel like I have a purpose, and it’s the reason I get out of bed everyday, I have an adventurous soul! So we’ve been fighting for the last couple years about how I should live my life.

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“My wife caught me snooping through her phone, but I have a legitimate reason to do so”

I need some advice. The last time my wife changed the password on her phone, I found out she was talking to one of her exes, and she tried hooking up with him. It was quickly foiled when I confronted her about it, and the issue was resolved. She hasn’t spoken to him since. HOWEVER, I recently noticed she changed her password again.

I got caught trying to snoop, and she FLIPPED OUT. She threatened to divorce me and kick me out of the house. My question is, was I justified in thinking something wasn’t right and checking up on her?

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