“Her coworker threatened to kill me if I try to go anywhere near her”

I was in a relationship with someone for close to 3 years. We had decided early on that we wanted to get married. Recently, though, she broke it off, shifting all the blame on me.

I took the blame, being the nice guy, and she originally gave me a chance to win her back. But soon after (the next day), she retracted any chance to be in her life. She said she had been unhappy for a while, but never told me anything. I didn’t see a big change, since she was always negative.

I haven’t faltered once in the relationship with love. I always wanted to be there for her, but she ended the relationship without any chance for me to try to make things better. I am worried for her, so I told her family about the situation, and even they don’t know what’s wrong. She won’t answer to anyone in her family, and she’s lying when she says she’s talking with her family. Continue reading

“Pick the nice guy, passionate ex, or Door #3”

My ex was not the best boyfriend, but our relationship was short-lived so I don’t know if things would improve this time around. He has some issues. But we have amazing chemistry, great talks together, and I thoroughly enjoy his company most of the time.

I’ve been seeing this new guy who is nice and we have a nice time together. But I don’t feel any chemistry with him, and I don’t countdown to the next time I will see him. But he’s a good guy, kind and considerate.

Do I choose the passionate relationship with issues, the nice guy with potential but no fire, or keep searching?