“I have a gay crush”

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Recently, there’s this new guy who is a total sweetheart and I catch myself thinking about him from time to time. We’ve become good friends for the past few months and I’ve been having these “what ifs”.

I’ve told my boyfriend about my conflicted feelings and he says he’ll stand by decision regardless, which makes me feel all the more guilty. I would really like to be rid of this ridiculous crush once and for all but I don’t know how.

“My best friend is bi and hinting that he wants me to ask him out”

Things have gotten … complicated with my best friend. I’ve known him for the better part of three years, and I’d personally consider him my closest friend at the moment. I’m a guy, by the way.

However, things are beginning to get complex between us. At least, I think so. Some context: He’s been dating a girl for the last few months, and they really love each other. However, my friend has very recently told me that, as well as liking women, he likes men, too.

Since then, he’s been … playful with me. Holding hands, accepting my back massages, sitting on my lap. Stuff like that. Today, when we were talking, he said he doesn’t mind me flirting with him in response, and that he’d probably say yes if I asked him out … if he weren’t already dating a woman. Continue reading

“Strangers always think we’re dating”

I met this guy, we’ll call him Jason, about a year and a half ago. We hit it off immediately, and I had a crush on him since day one. My attraction was pretty apparent, but he always made it a point, in an indirect way, to tell me what his type was (which is the opposite or me), which led me to believe he was just putting me in the friend zone.

My friends would say he was a flirt, but I just took it as him being friendly, since he didn’t want “anything more.” So after that point we would hang out periodically just as friends, nothing more. When we hang out though, it is always a good time, and for long periods of time. He is the first close gay friend I’ve had, who’ve I’ve actually been able to talk to and share pretty much everything with.

Fast forward some time, we hang out, we get closer, and anytime there is any issue, he immediately wants to talk about it, very openly and wants to discuss feelings and resolve it. In my life I haven’t had many people, who I can talk to like this. Continue reading

“I have a gay crush on my best friend”

I’ve got a friend who’s probably been one of the closest people to me in the world for a few years now. I know it sounds kinda dumb, but I have definitely developed feelings for him. Only, two issues present themselves:

a) I’m a man, and he mostly likes women. However, I know he has a thing for big, beefy men. I, unfortunately enough, do not meet this criteria.

b) One of our best friends has gotten into a relationship, and we both kinda hate how touchy-feely they are. I’m pretty sure we also agree that relationships among friends should be a no-no.

Should I open up to him about it, or should I just wait for this to blow over?