“I’m lonely and I can’t make new friends”

I’m going start off with I’m not crazy psychotic. or anything like that. Now that that’s clear, after searching ‘ask for advice online’ I found this site, and well, I need some advice.

The thing is, I’m just lonely. I tried a ton of websites to meet/make new friends, I’ve tried MeetUp, long story short, there’s nothing in my area. I even thought of volunteering, to meet new people and do some good. After numerous applications filled out, I heard nothing. I don’t have any opportunities to meet new friends in my day to day life, or through my favorite hobbies.  Nor can I even create any, so I’m literally stuck, and have been now for quite a while.

I am not at all happy about it. I should mention that I have a certain mental disorder, that just doesn’t help the matter out one bit, long story, has something to do with how it makes me appear/seem to others and leave it at that.

“Am I being unreasonable about this guy?”

This is a long post, but it’s a long story.

I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he also in love with a girl at his work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feeling and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.  Continue reading

“My coworkers make me feel like an outcast”

I started a new job and, unbeknown to me, there were two distinct social groups. I did not try or intend to, but I fell in with one group. It soon dawned on me that the two groups had an almost visceral dislike for each other.

Six months later, and within the space of a month, all the people from my group had quit or moved on to other positions. They were replaced by people who formed friendships with the second group. This has now left me alone and feeling somewhat of an outcast from the newly formed much larger single group. For reasons I won’t go into I cannot quit this job, as much as I would like to. I don’t know what I can do.

It is horrible, nobody talks to me and I am rebuffed whenever I try to engage with anyone. I feel stupid for saying this but I even feel I am being actively bullied by some members of the new group.  Thank you, any advice will be welcome.