“I told my friend a massive lie and want to come clean”

I told a really big lie to someone I care about and now I want to tell them. We’ve been friends for a little over year, and our friendship is at a really critical point because he’s going through relationship trouble and stress with school, and we’re connecting more than ever before. We have these long, intimate conversations about everything from music to horror movies to graduate school, and we have so much in common. I guess I just want to be honest with him for my own piece of mind, I want to have a clean conscience and feel like I’m presenting my most authentic self. I also want him to be vulnerable with me, especially when he’s struggling with something. We’re not totally there yet and I want us to be, so I guess I just feel like coming clean might help with that. Continue reading

“Did I scare him off?”

This guy and I have been school mates since elementary school till college. We never noticed each other until college started. Since we were paired up together in a group project, we became a bit closer. I felt that he has, maybe, some feelings for me because he really cared about me when I was sick in school and I noticed that he didn’t do the same for other girls. He would occasionally steal glances at me in classes. In addition, he would stare at me when I was laughing with my friends and he would then be curious and ask me what was I discussing about with my friends.

I feel like he was always inquisitive about my life which I didn’t see him doing to other girls. My classmates joked about us being together and he would always smile and look at me. During that period of time, I didn’t dare to confess to him because both of us were preparing for national exams and I didn’t want to get distracted. After the exam, he went for his national service. I finally made a decision to open up to him and tried to message him after months of pondering. Continue reading

“Should we stay together or shall I let her go?”

My girlfriend and I are fourth year students just finishing our degrees. Our relationship is both of our first serious relationship and we’ve been together for almost a year. We’ve had a lot of difficulty lately, especially with school stress and having to work closely together on many projects and reports.

She broke up with me a month ago, and a week after that we discussed things and decided we didn’t want it to end and we wanted to work on things. Things continued to be difficult, and now I know we’re back on the rocks.

I know she needs to see that I’m ready to grow up and take control of my life, but I don’t think I’m going to get the chance because I think she’s ready to give up again. I still think we have a relationship worth fighting for, but I’m torn because fighting for it will only make it harder on her to walk away if she has to.

I don’t want to lose her, and if all relationships require work then I think ours is worth working for.  What should I do? If we should stay together, how can I tell her? Can I tell her somehow that I want to fight for us? Should I leave her to think about things even if it means losing her?

I know I’m capable of making her happy and I want to stay together so we can both be happier.

I don’t know what help I expect to find, but please help.

“I want to break up, but he’s obsessed with me”

I don’t want anything to become serious. I am in high school (freshman), and I recently got asked out by a guy who is completely compatible with me, and my parents seem to like him. I met him a couple months before he asked me out. We started talking around 2 weeks before he asked the big question, and me being me, I said yes.

There has been some pressure from his friends, as he’s been very public about his crush on me, and now everyone knows that we are together. It’s been a week into the relationship, and already I feel that something is off between us. I know I shouldn’t have accepted, especially since I’m so young and naïve. Continue reading