“I wish I could have a normal, loving father “

I hate my father. He gets angry for no reason, & calls me hateful, hurtful things. He’s a perfectionist, and a little thing like a picture not being straight will set him off. Everything is never his fault, always mine or my mother’s, even when it’s obvious it isn’t.

I wish I could have a normal, loving father who I wouldn’t have to live in fear from. Even saying something wrong will set him off, like ‘have you seen my phone?’. He refuses any of my remedies, I offer to do things but he refuses, does it angrily, cursing me all the time. I’m too young to leave this home, & I need advice.

 

“I can’t cope with my parent’s death”

Dear Blurb ,
I’m a 20 year old girl from Cape Town, South Africa and I found my mom dead on the bathroom floor when I was 13. When I was 18 I walked into my dad’s room as he took his last breath.

I’m going through some weird emotions and I don’t really have money to talk to someone. When my dad passed, the flat we’ve been renting was put in my name so all the responsibility was given to me overnight.

I’m not really sure how to deal with it all, please send me your advice and tips to help with coping.

“I’m tired of being called out for my family’s amusement”

I’m a guy in my mid-thirties. During family get-togethers, my step-sister’s husband (who also happens to be my father’s drug dealer) makes a point of ridiculing me in front of as many people as possible. He brings up embarrassing past events and generally does his best to humiliate and disgrace me.

If I ignore him, he gets increasingly more personal and aggressive. If I try to defend myself, my father immediately interrupts me with a litany of nonsense words or big fake belittling laughter before I can get a word out. Any time I’ve tried to talk to my dad about it, I’m “being to sensitive,” “imagining things,” or “can’t take a joke.”

I’m tired of being called out and then immediately shut down for others’ amusement.