I have a relationship with a girl. It’s not an exclusive relationship, as she has a boyfriend and I’m married, but we’ve hung out several times. Over the last couple of days, she’s ignored my messages for sometimes hours while in between writing nice things and saying she loves me. What should I do?
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“Should I wait for him?”
So about 4-5 months ago, I started dating this guy (I’m in college) and it was great. I ended up falling in love with him and everything was perfect. But then he decided to rush a fraternity, and things started to go badly. He was getting very stressed out and frustrated because of all the pledge stuff he had to do, and he kind of took it out on me. I tried to be there for him and provide whatever support I could because I knew it must’ve been hard, but eventually I started to get too stressed out as well. So I suggested that we take a break until he’s done. He didn’t want to, but I insisted because I thought that it would help us. That was about a month and a half ago, and I honesly want more than anything to be with him. But when we talked a couple of weeks back, he said that he just doesn’t want a relationship right now, he wants to be alone. He swears it’s nothing to do with me and that if he were to be with anyone that it would be me. I asked if we could hang out or get lunch or something, but he said no because he “would get the feels for me again” and he doesn’t want to. I really love him, but would it be crazy for me to wait and see if he comes around or am I wasting my time? There’s a part of me that thinks that one day he’ll change his mind, and he said that if he does he’ll let me know.
