“She’s leaving me, but I still love her”

I’m working on myself to deal with my co-dependent / passive-aggressive baggage, and feel like I’m actually getting somewhere. However, in all the books I’m reading it says I should only do this for myself and not for my partner as such, but I can’t seem to stop worrying if I’m doing the right thing in her eyes. She is leaving me at this point and there are 2 kids in the mix. We’ve been like this for 8 years at this point, and I finally feel I’m getting somewhere, but from her point of view it’s too little too late. That said, we still live with each other, but at the same time I found out the other day she has gone out on one date while she was away (kids with me for a week) and intends on going on more with other guys.

Problem is I also see it from her point of view, but at the same time she has a lot of baggage she isn’t acknowledging, and it’s getting in the way too. And as I get out of my co-dependent space, the more I can’t accept it happening anymore and can’t force things to improve, so I’m stuck and not sure if I’m doing the right thing or completely fooling myself and all it is doing is driving me mental! Continue reading