“This guy I used to hook up with is now my neighbor”

This guy I used to hook up with is now my neighbor.

About a year ago, I met this guy from class. He was cute, charming, and I was definitely attracted to him. I just got out of a long-term relationship, so I felt ready to get out there.

We hung out casually, and finally went out. On that night, we hooked up. I felt good because it was the first time I got back out there after my breakup. We hung out a few times after that, but stopped talking after a while.

Close to a year later, I see that he’s my neighbor. He instantly texts me and after talking for a bit, he asks to come over. I knew exactly what he wanted, -and I wanted the same thing. We hooked up again. It was strange this time around – meaning little chemistry. I think it was mainly because we didn’t talk and just went straight to it. Continue reading

“I have a new job, and a new office crush”

I just started a new job at the beginning of the summer, and globally everything has been going pretty well: I’ve developed friendships with a lot of my colleagues, and I also enjoy the casual work environment and the work itself a lot. However, there is this one colleague that always made me a little nervous and self-conscious; it doesn’t help that he was the one who mostly trained me when I arrived (we work on the same project). I always thought he had a dreamy smile and I kind-of feel attracted to his personality and his intelligence. However, lately this little attraction has grown into a full blown crush that is making my life in the office difficult, plus I feel super guilty because I already have a wonderful partner of three years whom I am deeply in love with and feel lucky to have. Obviously, I don’t want this crush-thing to go anywhere romantically-speaking. I’ve read a bit online and I know that crushes can happen even when you are already committed; it doesn’t change the fact that it doesn’t feel good. I tried rechanneling this excitement and extra energy into my relationship, and everything is going pretty well on that front. It is more the work-related consequences of this attraction that worry me. Continue reading

The Non-Awkward Way to Acknowledge Someone You Barely Know as You Walk By

This post isn’t dating or relationship-related, but it cracks me up how bizarrely specific the situation it gives advice for is:

You’re walking down the street … you see someone you kind-of-sort-of know … at least well enough to know that they’ll recognize you, too … you feel like you should acknowledge them somehow … but … you really don’t want to stop and talk to them.

This. Exactly this situation. And nothing more.

If you ever encounter this situation, here’s the perfect advice for you:

“The Non-Awkward Way to Acknowledge Someone You Barely Know as You Walk By”