I have been married for 5 years and I am finding things a bit lacking with my wife when it comes to sex. I love her, she’s my best friend, but I am just not getting what I want in the bedroom.
I have tried to bring things up before and while she is open to talking about things, I don’t feel like she is hearing what I want. I want things a bit more adventurous than the average, and instead of getting a sex kitten, she is becoming more insecure in the bedroom.
Does anyone have any advice on how to bring up sex needs with your partner without it totally backfiring on you? I don’t want her to be less interested in sex than she already is because she feels criticized by me. Or do I just give up and not get what I want?

That title actually makes me sound kind of harsh, so I’ll explain.

My friend is good looking guy, in a totally non, “I want sweaty man love with him” way. He’s always found it easy to talk to girls and fair play to him for having the confidence to do so. However he recently came to me with a dilemma, he’s being pursued by too many women.

Now I know him well and he’s totally not in control of this, for example we’ll go out for a few drinks and women will literally walk straight up to him and give him their number.

He’s now told me that this is getting annoying for him, now I can understand being harrassed is something to be annoyed about, but he’s just annoyed with beautiful women throwing themselves at him.

The main reason it’s hard to feel bad for him is because the women as I see them are stunning, but he’s got a totally different idea of what makes a girl attractive, and that’s cool, it’s up to him. It’s just a little hard to work up sympathy for a guy because he’s got too many perfectly nice women trying to get to know him.

Does anyone out there have advice for how to talk to him? Or better yet do any of you super foxes out there have advice I could pass along to him to help him be less sexarific?

Commitment.

Let me say it again. Commitment.

Does that word make your mind flash images of wedding ceremonies, anniversaries, children; a pleasant montage of your life to come? Or did you just run in fear like you just encountered a little girl named Reagan whose head turns 360 degrees and spits pea soup?

Gazing beyond the horizon and into the distant future can be quite daunting for some individuals, particularly when it comes to spending the rest of your life with a person (whether that be 20, 30, 40+ years).

What do you think makes a person afraid of commitment? A bad previous relationship? Are they too set in their own ways? Is there an intentional failure to compromise with their partner? Are their feelings fleeting? Are they afraid of losing those traits and characteristics that make them “whole” (such as personal hobbies, along time, etc.)?

Are they simply afraid of change?

How much should be expected from the other person in the relationship (the one who wants a commitment)?

What would be some clear signs to end things, despite their feelings? What type of accommodations can they make for their partner to possibly help sway their perspective in a more positive direction?

Is it better to fight or be patient and hope for the best?

I like to maintain civil relations with my ex-girlfriends (well, some of them). Now, I’m not saying that you should still hang out with your ex all the time. In fact, that would probably be a bad idea. But if you happen to have a mutual group of friends, then… well, you sort of *have* to stay friends, ya know?

But this is where things can get kind of awkward….

At some point, I’m going to want to introduce a new person I’m dating to “the group.” But when it comes to that point, I’m never sure whether or not it’s appropriate to “prep” the ex-girlfriend beforehand.

Should I call her and say, “Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I’ll be bringing my new girlfriend to the party this weekend. Hope that’s okay with you”?

Or should I just bring her and introduce her as I would to any other friend?

The reason I ask is because I’ve done it both ways, and I’ve gotten dinged both ways:

I’ve brought the new girlfriend without prepping the ex beforehand, only to be told that it was inconsiderate of me to do so.

But, I’ve also called and been told, “Don’t worry about it. It’s fine.” And I end up feeling like a presumptuous tool, because then it’s as though I think the ex is still hung up on me, so I have to console her by prepping her beforehand.

I dunno. Maybe it’s one of those things where you just have to take it on a case-by-case basis. Anyone have any experiences with this? What would you do? How would you handle introducing a new significant other to an ex?

So, with Valentine’s Day almost upon us, I’m thinking it’s time to update the Booty Playlist. What are your favorite songs to get busy to? Oh. And I’m not talking Justin Bieber or Clay Aiken. Those are clearly going to make an appearance whether suggested or not.

So I’m a 32 year old single mom to three kids, and went through a messy divorce a few years ago. I’ve really been wanting to get back in the dating scene recently, and decided online dating would probably be the way to go. But I’m having trouble deciding how “open” I should be in my dating profile. How much is too much?

Because I really want to have more kids, and because I don’t want to casually date and waste time away from my children, I really am only looking for serious relationships. But would that be too intimidating to put on my dating profile? I can’t think of a way to phrase, “My biological clock is ticking so please don’t waste my time unless you’re looking for someone to marry,” so that it won’t scare off all potential matches.

And how much do I mention my kids in my profile? Do I just mention that I have kids, and go into details about their ages and everything? Or just put a simple statement about my being a mother and leave it at that?

I want to find the right match, but I’m afraid my status and clicking biological clock will come across as too obvious and scare men away. How can I prevent this? How should I phrase it all?

Hi, people. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. About two months ago, I was at a party at one of my girl friends’ house. My boyfriend was out of town, so he wasn’t there with me. Well I got pretty toasty, and didn’t want to drive. So I stayed at my friend’s house that night. Since she had a bunch of people staying over, I slept in her bed with her. Something we’ve done dozens of times before. Well as I was falling asleep, she put her arm around my waist and spooned. I didn’t really mind that, but then she started petting. Honestly, it felt pretty good. I sort of went along with it. Nothing major happened, just some heavy petting (nothing below the belt) and a little kissing. Then we both fell asleep and when we woke up the next day, we sort of sheepishly smiled at each other but didn’t really talk about it. So now I’m feeling terrible and I’m wondering if I should tell my boyfriend about it. The truth is, I’m confused about what we did, and if it’s considered cheating or not. I’m 100% sure it won’t happen again, as I won’t put myself in that situation anymore. I’ve never been attracted to girls previously, and I’m still not. It was a strange fluke of a situation that I don’t know how to deal with. I’m afraid to tell my boyfriend and put our relationship (which is wonderful) at risk for something that almost seems like it was an innocent mistake.

I met my (now, ex) boyfriend on eharmony last year. At the time I was apprehensive of getting into anything serious and was completely upfront with him about that. He (we’ll call him Alan) was really understanding, and that in itself made it a little more comfortable for me to let my guard down with him.

About a month later he sprung the exclusivity discussion and we agreed to date only each other. Alan and I spent the majority of our time over the next four months, together. He was really attentive and thoughtful (sending flowers regularly, opening doors, taking care of me when I was sick, etc.). I then met the parents, and we really got along well. It had then been six months, and I was totally falling for this guy.

Now, I’ve always been kind of shy about putting my feelings out there for fear of rejection (I know…get over it). So…I got over it. I told Alan that I was in love with him.

He then told me that he did not feel the same way and that he might not ever feel the same way. Followed with “what does ‘love’ mean, anyway?” He said he had “issues” that he needed to work through before he could be in a relationship. And then…he left. This was literally a 3 minute conversation.

WTF happened? I was totally blindsided. I’ve moved on and am completely over said relationship, but am still scratching my head. Please…lay it on me. Should I have seen this coming?

Is living at home a dealbreaker when it comes to dating someone? Does it differ by age, gender, situation?

For me, it would be a dealbreaker if a guy was still living at home over the age of 25 and he had a good job and wasn’t acting as a caretaker to a family member. The older you get, the more red flags, in my opinion, if someone is still living at home. I want a guy who is independent, who wants to live on his own, and can take care of himself. If a guy is in school, has a ton of loans, etc., then that might be a different story, but I still feel that by age 29-30, nobody should really be living at home unless there are dire circumstances. As an example, my cousin is 25 and has never had a girlfriend, and I worry that if he lives at home for much longer, girls might not be interested in him. He has a job where he makes more than enough money to move out and get his own place, but he’s content just living with his mom, and his mom also doesn’t want him to leave either, which is a whole other problem.

I know this might not bother other people at all, so I’m curious to hear how others feel about it!

This girl I’ve been dating took down her profile over the holidays. Well, it’s been a while and it’s not up yet. I think she’s cute and I like her. I want to get to know her better but… how do I bring up being exclusive? (Or what if I’m just reading into it and she just forgot to put it back up?)

Edit: It’s been about a month and a couple weeks since we started dating.
Edit2: I didn’t notice she took it down, she told me she took it down because she’d be away for Christmas.