I tell my girlfriend what I want in sex. I need her to be more spontaneous about things. She’s super sensitive about me touching her. It’s been 5 years and I feel like my sex life isn’t where it needs to be in the relationship. Am I overreacting about the situation?
LemonVibe 
Possibly, but how would we know in a five sentence paragraph? I think your real issue isn’t sex, but how to communicate with each other. I suggest doing that at length, possibly with a couples counselor. Good luck!