I was born with two spinal conditions called Scoliosis and Spina Bifida Occulta. I broke up with my boyfriend last July. We were together over 4 years. He has Cerebral Palsy and learning difficulties. He didn’t treat me right sometimes (shouting at me and only thinking about himself) and I felt like I was making most of the effort in the relationship, and it felt like I was looking after him.
I recently went to bingo because I was bored of staying in and he was there. I sat with him and told him I just wanted to be friends and I didn’t want to lead him on.
He phoned me today and I answered, which I shouldn’t have done and I told him I was going to bingo tomorrow. I told him that because I feel sorry for him, and he doesn’t have much in his life apart from bingo.
Should I go to bingo tomorrow? Part of me misses him, but I don’t want to be in a relationship with him, and I think he is hoping we will get back together because he has put a photo of when we were at school together on Facebook. I blocked him on Facebook before but he kept phoning me and sent me an email saying why did I block him? Is it best for me to block him on Facebook for good? Is that mean? I just think he is hoping we will get back together. I have told him a few times I just want to be friends.
You need to find something else than Bingo and block him altogether. It doesn’t matter what he thinks or feels right now and you need to stop being nice. Don’t appologize for something you need. Women tend to ignore their gut in possible bad situations and yours is screaming at you how much of a bad idea this is.
Start looking for something other than bingo that interests you and do that. Check your paper’s events section for free things in the area. Look for book clubs at your local library. There is stuff out there.
He’s not going to move on until you do. This will help him let go. Some ex’s you can’t be friends with.