I have a really good friend that I met in my medical school days. We texted all the time, would go for dinner every alternate day, go to the movies, talk for hours on phone, study nights together for our final exams, basically all types of friend stuff.
For the last two to three months, I have been developing feelings for her and it literally sucks. I can’t take this friendship to the next level because she has a boyfriend who is also a very good friend of mine.
I decided be distant from her to suppress my feelings. I stopped talking to her and have avoided her on many occasions, but, she is not letting me to do so. She call me every single day for combined studies at her place, and cooks for me. She asks me questions like, “Why are you are behaving this way?”
It’s becoming very difficult for me to handle it at the moment because I can’t tell her my feelings and it’s becoming problematic. I personally feel that it’s ethically wrong to have feelings for my friend’s girlfriend.
I don’t want to hurt her more by ignoring her, but being around her is becoming difficult for me. On top of all of that, now we are working in same hospital in residency training.
Please tell me how to get out of this triangle.