I’m really tired of not being able to talk to my SO about what’s bothering me in our relationship.
I’m not trusted. Despite being told that I am, I’m constantly under suspicion of doing something wrong. It’s evident by my SO looking thru my emails and stuff, facebook, and facebook searching my exes to see if there’s some connection still. I volunteer the phone and password and stuff because I’ve done nothing wrong. It hurts every time and makes me uneasy
I didn’t do anything inappropriate with my ex, I haven’t been in the same room as this person in over ten years. After my grandfather died, they expressed their condolences and asked to meet up for a cup of coffee and catch up next time they were in town. This set my SO off so much that I had to remove this other person from my fb altogether. There is no other contact with them. All of this was two years ago.
Two years later I still get accused of being out suspiciously late, get my stuff checked and have seen my SO searching/spying on my ex.
I’m not sure how clear this is, but I don’t really care that much about the ex, it’s more the actions of my SO. It hurts and the couple of times I’ve brought it up it makes it look like I’m pining for an old lover.
Is there a way to talk about it without it having anything to do with the ex at all? Do I just accept that this is the way it’ll be?
Who the hell do I talk to about this and please don’t say counseling, ive not the time nor money.