What is wrong with me

Been with this for almost 4 years. Helped him get in a home, helped him get two cars, helped his son. Last month he told me he felt like he was in prison. He could not take the relationship. He wanted to be free. This coming from a man that spent ten years in his last relationship. Then he told me he could not get over how she treated him. He told me he loved me and thought the world of me. I cannot understand. I think of him all the time and just want to cry. I try to stay busy, but sometimes it overwelming. I want to move on, but it is like I am stuck.

2 thoughts on “What is wrong with me

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    [I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Breakups are never easy, and I can tell this is tearing you up.

    Unfortunately, I don’t have any answers for you. I don’t know why he said the hurtful things he said. I don’t know why he said he thought the world of you, and then turned around and said that he needed to be free. No one on the internet will have these answers, and I don’t even know that you’ll ever have them yourself. The sad reality is that sometimes, breakups don’t come with closure.

    The only consolation I can offer is that it will get better. Not today, not tomorrow, maybe not even a year from now. But it will get better. I promise you that. It will be a slow process, and it won’t be easy, but it will happen. You just have to give yourself time.

    Do you have any friends or family members that you can turn to for support right now? Sometimes the best way to get over a breakup is to surround yourself with those who love and care about you. Sure, you may have lost the one person that matters to you more than anyone else, but hopefully, that doesn’t mean there aren’t others who care about you just as much, if not more. Being alone with our thoughts at a time like this can seriously mess us up, so my suggestion is to spend as much time around friends and family as you can. And if you do so, and you keep holding onto the belief that you will eventually get over this, then I promise you… you will eventually get over this.

    Please take care, and feel free to keep posting here if it will help. Just don’t forget to neglect your real-life interactions, too, okay?

  2. EricaSwagger says:

    [I recommend seeing a therapist.

    My last breakup was incredibly hard. I was not okay for a very, very long time. The only thing that helped me was talking it out. I didn’t sit and stew and cry and just feel my feelings, I opened my mouth and said things, and the more I talked the more I understood: How things had gotten to where they were, why I broke it off, why I regretted it so intensely, and eventually, why I knew I had made the right decision.

    Sitting and crying is not going to help you. Even if you don’t go to a therapist, try just speaking out loud in your home. You might be surprised what things you end up saying that you didn’t know where there. For me, as I talked, I began to see that I had been unhappy for a long time, and that I wasn’t missing him as much as I thought, I was just lonely.

    Take any breakup as a blessing — something wasn’t right. Regardless of what that something is or who is to blame, a breakup is always good news, eventually. It takes time and a lot of reflection to see it, but you will.

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