I don’t know what to do

I have been debating about this for awhile. I don’t want to share it with anyone but I’ve come to a halt, I’m confused, and I dont have anyone I can share this with that knows how to handle it calmly because I dislike when people can’t keep it cool, it makes me Anxious. I don’t want to sound needy or anything, But I need advice to make my decision.. I’ve been dating him for awhile, almost 2 years now. I am his 1st girlfriend and now he is moving away. I know long distance isn’t very good especially for him. And I’m wondering if maybe I am keeping him from possibilities to come. He says he loves me.. but noting I am his first.. I’m not utterly sure if he knows what he means, or if he thinks its love because I’m the only one willing to listen and help. Now we have no way of seeing each other, we barely have a way to talk. I don’t want to hurt him, but i know sometimes.. its better to rip off the bandaid instead of slowly peeling it off. So.. I want another opinion.

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2 thoughts on “I don’t know what to do

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    [You mention that you’re not sure how he feels, but what about you? How do *you* feel about all this?

    It sounds to me like you’re kind of looking for an excuse to break up. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Long distance relationships are hard, and you have to be *really* sure about the other person to want to give it a shot. If you’re just not sure about the relationship at this point, then… well, then maybe the best thing to do is go your separate ways for now at least.

    That doesn’t mean that you can’t reconnect again in the future. That just means that, at this moment, being together isn’t the right thing for you. And given what you’ve written, that’s what it feels like to me.

  2. EricaSwagger says:

    [Eh, I say let him go. As you said, rip off the bandaid. If you’re uncertain in a relationship, especially one where you’re so young and inexperienced, trust your gut. Life is LONG and you’ll both move on relatively quickly. I can’t even remember the last time I thought about my first boyfriend (or second for that matter).

    Distance isn’t worth it if there’s doubts, you’ll hold each other back and end up resentful. And if time goes by and you realize you can’t live without one another, you can always get back together down the road.

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