I’ve been single for months and i got bored spending evenings having dinner by myself or with friends or with parent. I went on dates but didn’t sleep with any of them because i didn’t like their personalities neither nor no chemistry. Some were very obvious they wanted sexual encounters.
Then my friend suggested Tinder. It was fun killing time. There are many attractive guys in the area–most of them don’t live here. It was like somewhat an ego boost that i’ve gotten many matches. I put in my profile that i was looking for friends to hang out, dining out and trying new cool spots in town. Not looking for hook ups or casual sex.
Anyway, I matched a cute guy. He’s 28 and I’m 33. He stated in his profile he lives over 1000km away from me but he came in town. Anyway, i complimented his photos. We started chatting and he asked if i had any plans that evening. I was busy with work so i didn’t reply. The next day, in the afternoon, he asked me again to meet that evening and i thought.. fine by me. He gave me his number and Line ID then we met for a nice Japanese dinner. I offered to share the bill because i didn’t want to take advantages of him. After that, we hanged out at a cool bar. He said he often came to the city i live, almost every month. We started drinking and having flowing conversations. We discussed about many topics. Work, life, philosophy and relationship. I started to get tipsy and started to kiss him on lips. Then he looked a little bit surprised with wide opened eyes. I told him he was very cute. He really was cute, funny, witty, incredibly smart, very active and very social. We kissed and talked a bit more. Anyway, i told him i couldn’t go to his place because i parked my car elsewhere and need to take it out before midnight since i didn’t want a one night stand to happen. But he seemed to wait it and ,admittedly, i wanted it with him too.
He accompanied me to pick my car. Before we went to his hotel, i asked him he wasn’t in any kind of relationship. He said he broke up with his ex gf a month ago. That’s why he went to Tokyo to see his friends 2 weeks ago before coming here.
At his room, we joked, we laughed and we talked even more and more. He tried to impress me and acting mature and that made me smile. He never flooded compliments or being cheesy but i liked that. I convinced myself i hadn’t had sex for a long time and this would be a one time thing.
After it’s done, he asked me to scratch his back and we cuddled for a while and fell asleep. Then morning sex.. then scratch his back. He asked if we could meet each other again when he come back next month. I said i would be traveling to a neighbor country and he asked where and he said he would like to go with me too. I was surprised to here that. Then he told me to send an itinerary to his email address—he gave me his full name and his email address to me. However, he told me he had an appointment at a hospital this morning (he mentioned that he had unknown cause of headache that bothers him) so we got dressed. When we were downstairs, i was about to walk to my car, then he asked me to have breakfast with him then asked me to drop him at a hospital.
After we departed, i didn’t expect to hear from him again. I tried not to get emotionally attached. Then when i got home, he texted me saying his MRI result was normal. His blood tests came back normal as well. I told him take it easy.
Then in the afternoon he texted me and asked me to hang out with him before he flew back. At first i hesitated because i felt weird… but it was my day off and i didn’t want to stay at home all day so i agreed to go. He was the one do the talking and asked me opinions about things. I was happy inside but tried to act cool.
When we got to the place, it was a gypsy market in a very hot sunny day. It was crowded and i frowned briefly and looked away but didn’t say a word but he seemed to get it and we did a boat trip instead. Before we went on seperate ways, he kissed me on my lips and still texted me saying we would meet soon, let him know about my upcomng trip soon before he flew back.
He flew back 3-4 days ago and I haven’t heard from him after since. I know this would happen. What could i expect from a one night stand? I did enjoy the sex with him and having him around. I’m just confused why he gave me “we’ll meet soon” crap when he didn’t intend to meet me again. I know i analyze too much. It wouldn’t change the fact it was just a one night stand and it wouldn’t turn into anything more.
I wish i didn’t stay for breakfast.. neither nor going out with him on the second day afternoon. He made me feel special and it made me grow a feeling for him. Stupid me i fall for him. Now i have to move on but i’m missing him…