I started dating a guy around Thanksgiving. Well, “seeing” a guy. I don’t know. We’ve hung out 7 times total, which in two months is not that many times. I’ll preface the rest of this by saying we met through Tinder, but the only reason I felt comfortable meeting him IRL is because we had some mutual Facebook friends so I felt more comfortable knowing I could ask people about him.
So the first time we met, we talked for a few hours and had some beers and made out before saying goodbye. Pretty successful first date. The next few times were similar. There was a good amount of making out and talking. We’ve had sex a few times and we are very comfortable with each other, at least while we’re in bed.
He lives and works about 45 minutes away, but one or two days a week his job brings him closer to me. Also, he grew up right down the street from where I currently live. Because of this, he’s always come to me to hang out (it just makes more sense because he’s in my area a lot while I never go to his).
This past weekend, he asked me to drive to his house, which I did. (We’d planned on me going up there before, but bad weather screwed things up a couple times.) This was the first time I visited him. We had a great night and morning. It was fun and relaxed, etc. But it got awkward when it came time for me to leave. I couldn’t tell if he wanted me to stay or go, and when I did leave, he gave me one tiny kiss at the door and said goodbye. Weird right? Usually people kiss more once they start liking each other? I don’t know.
So yesterday we went to the movies in my area. He suggested it, for something different, since we usually just hang out at my apartment. I thought it was nice that he wanted to take me out, be seen with me in public, etc. So we went, watched the movie, and left. In the theater there was barely an arm graze, like we didn’t touch at all. And at our cars saying goodbye, he gave me just one small kiss again.
I just don’t know what’s going on, I feel like I’m getting mixed signals. He keeps asking me to hang out, but then he’s awkward with goodbyes. He was way more affectionate at first, making out with me and being forward, which is what I like. Now I get a mom kiss and an “I’ll talk to you later.”
He does keep asking me to hang out. And I think suggesting a movie shows that he at least is willing to be with me in public and put some money into it. (Maybe that sounds shallow, what I mean is he isn’t always just trying to come over and have sex with me then leave.)
So am I just over-thinking the past two “goodbyes” we’ve had? It just seems weird to me, that a guy could go from making out with me to just a peck. I’m used to guys actually acting like they like me/want me. Is he trying to be a gentleman? Is he not into me anymore? Is he nervous? I want to know what’s up because if he’s not into me I don’t want to waste my time. I just don’t know how to tell anymore.